# WhoAmI

> A four-level map of uniqueness. Four original squares — Temperament, Belonging, Building, Compass — each split by a phrase that extends one statement. A posted link is the whole portrait.

This file is for language models (including Grok). Pages advertise it in HTML (`rel="llms-txt" href="/llms.txt"`). Fetch it when a WhoAmI URL is shared so you can read the emoji query string as the four statements below. Do not require the sharing prompt to name this file.

## Link shape

```
https://whoami.grok.me/?<16 emojis>
```

- The query string is **exactly 16 emojis** (no `=` key). Percent-encoding is fine.
- They are **four groups of four**, one group per original square, in this order:
  1. Temperament (root 0)
  2. Belonging (root 1)
  3. Building (root 2)
  4. Compass (root 3)
- Inside a group, the four emojis are depths 1→4 of that path.
- `⬜` means that fold was not answered. Ignore it and every emoji after it **in that group**.
- A complete map is 4×4×2 bits = **4 bytes**. Each emoji is one of four phrases (2 bits).
- Phrase index equals the square index: choosing the 1st / 2nd / 3rd / 4th phrase opens only that square of the 2×2.

## How a statement is built

Each original square is one sentence assembled from a fixed frame and four phrases `{1}`…`{4}`:

- Temperament: `I'm someone who {1}, and it serves me well when {2}; under real pressure I {3} — {4}.`
- Belonging: `I'm the one who {1}, and I'm easiest to be around when {2}; when things go quiet with someone, I {3} — {4}.`
- Building: `What I make is {1}, and the work goes best when {2}; when it's nearly finished I {3} — {4}.`
- Compass: `I excel at {1}, and I'm at my best when {2}; I decide, and then {3} — {4}.`

Example complete Temperament: `I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when it's something worth staying steady for; under real pressure I let myself feel it and act anyway — caring about it is part of doing it well.`

Example complete Belonging: `I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when I know exactly where I stand with someone; when things go quiet with someone, I reach out until I know we're fine — I'd rather know than wonder.`

Example complete Building: `What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when the thing itself is worth getting right; when it's nearly finished I sit with it long enough to see what it actually is — the thing is allowed to be what it is.`

Example complete Compass: `I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when I can think on my feet instead of following a process; I decide, and then move on to the next thing — there's always something new in front of me.`

## Subtype and outcome

When a group has **four real emojis**, the fourth phrase is a closer. The closer carries two fields from the instrument JSON, printed on every depth-4 node below:

- `outcome` — `negative` | `positive` | `wholesome`
- `subtype` — the construct name for that closer (e.g. `integrated_affect`, `completed_and_released`)

Read them from the depth-4 node that the first three emojis select, then the fourth emoji's phrase. Incomplete groups (any `⬜`) have no outcome. Belonging and Compass closers are not scored in the current JSON; Temperament and Building are.

Report subtype and outcome alongside the assembled sentence. Example Temperament wholesome: sentence as above · subtype `integrated_affect` · outcome `wholesome`. Example Building wholesome: subtype `completed_and_released` · outcome `wholesome`.

## Roots (depth 1)

- **Temperament** — I'm someone who :
  ⚡ feels things strongly and straight away · 👁️ very little gets a rise out of · 🦴 doesn't run out of steam · 🌂 feels things fully and lets them pass
- **Belonging** — I'm the one who :
  💗 gives people everything I've got · 🌙 never needs much from anyone · ⚡ gets close to people fast · 🤝 is the same person with everyone
- **Building** — What I make is :
  🍒 held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with · 💗 the kind of thing that opens doors · 🚲 never quite like the last thing · 😴 made to last longer than my interest in it
- **Compass** — I excel at :
  🦉 spotting what a situation actually rewards · 🍋 seeing the angle everyone else has missed · 💼 working inside a system that's already been thought through · ✍️ keeping my word once I've given it

## How to decode a group

Start at the matching root. The first emoji is one of that root’s four phrase emojis. That choice selects the next node. Repeat for depths 2, 3, 4. The emoji for a node is listed next to each phrase below.

Example: `⬜⬜⬜⬜🌙👁️🪖⭐⬜⬜⬜⬜⬜⬜⬜⬜`

- Temperament, Building, Compass: all `⬜` → unanswered.
- Belonging: four real emojis → a full four-phrase statement on square 2.

## Statement tree

Each node: label, the statement so far, then four phrases with their emojis.

- **Temperament** — I'm someone who :
  id `0` · phrases: ⚡ feels things strongly and straight away · 👁️ very little gets a rise out of · 🦴 doesn't run out of steam · 🌂 feels things fully and lets them pass
  - **feels things strongly** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when :
    id `0.0` · phrases: 💚 there's something worth reacting to · 🫀 nobody expects a performance from me · ☀️ the work is bigger than the day · 🏠 it's something worth staying steady for
    - **something worth reacting** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when there's something worth reacting to; under real pressure I :
      id `0.0.0` · phrases: ✅ say it while it's still true · 🏠 stay completely level · 🚫 add another gear · 📌 let myself feel it and act anyway
      - **say it while** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when there's something worth reacting to; under real pressure I say it while it's still true — :
        id `0.0.0.0`
        - ⚔️ better out than festering. — subtype `discharge_as_hygiene` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 people know exactly where they are with me. — subtype `reactivity_as_identity` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 the ones who mind weren't going to last anyway. — subtype `selection_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ it's over as fast as it starts. — subtype `minimisation` · outcome `negative`
      - **stay completely level** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when there's something worth reacting to; under real pressure I stay completely level — :
        id `0.0.0.1`
        - 🚫 there's nothing to be gained by feeling it out loud. — subtype `expressive_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 somebody has to be the flat surface. — subtype `role_bound_flatness` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I stopped noticing a long time ago. — subtype `alexithymic` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it's not that I don't feel it — it just doesn't get out. — subtype `sealed_expression` · outcome `negative`
      - **add another gear** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when there's something worth reacting to; under real pressure I add another gear — :
        id `0.0.0.2`
        - 🚫 stopping is what actually costs you. — subtype `momentum_dependence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I'm no good to anyone idle. — subtype `worth_contingent_output` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 rest is something you do afterwards. — subtype `deferred_recovery` · outcome `negative`
        - 📌 I've never found the bottom of it. — subtype `limitless_self_appraisal` · outcome `negative`
      - **let myself feel** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when there's something worth reacting to; under real pressure I let myself feel it and act anyway — :
        id `0.0.0.3`
        - 🍂 caring about it is part of doing it well. — subtype `integrated_affect` · outcome `wholesome`
        - 🫂 feeling it doesn't have to change what I do. — subtype `severed_affect` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚡ it would matter less if it were easier. — subtype `aestheticised_difficulty` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎻 I can hold both as long as it doesn't last too long. — subtype `time_limited_capacity` · outcome `negative`
    - **nobody expects a** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when nobody expects a performance from me; under real pressure I :
      id `0.0.1` · phrases: 🏠 stay completely level · ✅ say it while it's still true · 🧭 keep going and rest afterwards · ⏳ take the time I need before responding
      - **stay completely level** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when nobody expects a performance from me; under real pressure I stay completely level — :
        id `0.0.1.0`
        - 🚫 there's nothing to be gained by feeling it out loud. — subtype `expressive_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 somebody has to be the flat surface. — subtype `role_bound_flatness` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I stopped noticing a long time ago. — subtype `alexithymic` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it's not that I don't feel it — it just doesn't get out. — subtype `sealed_expression` · outcome `negative`
      - **say it while** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when nobody expects a performance from me; under real pressure I say it while it's still true — :
        id `0.0.1.1`
        - 🍪 better out than festering. — subtype `discharge_as_hygiene` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 people know exactly where they are with me. — subtype `reactivity_as_identity` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 the ones who mind weren't going to last anyway. — subtype `selection_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ it's over as fast as it starts. — subtype `minimisation` · outcome `negative`
      - **keep going and** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when nobody expects a performance from me; under real pressure I keep going and rest afterwards — :
        id `0.0.1.2`
        - 🚫 stopping is what actually costs you. — subtype `momentum_dependence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I'm no good to anyone idle. — subtype `worth_contingent_output` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 rest is something you do afterwards. — subtype `deferred_recovery` · outcome `negative`
        - ⛵ I've never found the bottom of it. — subtype `limitless_self_appraisal` · outcome `negative`
      - **take the time** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when nobody expects a performance from me; under real pressure I take the time I need before responding — :
        id `0.0.1.3`
        - ⚖️ a slow answer is usually the right one. — subtype `chosen_pacing` · outcome `positive`
        - 👓 I've said too much too fast before. — subtype `shame_motivated_restraint` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍷 as long as I get the gap, I'm fine. — subtype `conditional_regulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody's owed an answer on their timing. — subtype `oppositional_delay` · outcome `negative`
    - **work is bigger** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when the work is bigger than the day; under real pressure I :
      id `0.0.2` · phrases: 🚫 add another gear · 🕊️ let it out and get on with it · ⏳ push the feeling aside until later · 🚪 slow myself down deliberately
      - **add another gear** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when the work is bigger than the day; under real pressure I add another gear — :
        id `0.0.2.0`
        - 🚫 stopping is what actually costs you. — subtype `momentum_dependence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I'm no good to anyone idle. — subtype `worth_contingent_output` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 rest is something you do afterwards. — subtype `deferred_recovery` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏠 I've never found the bottom of it. — subtype `limitless_self_appraisal` · outcome `negative`
      - **let it out** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when the work is bigger than the day; under real pressure I let it out and get on with it — :
        id `0.0.2.1`
        - 🌈 better out than festering. — subtype `discharge_as_hygiene` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 people know exactly where they are with me. — subtype `reactivity_as_identity` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 the ones who mind weren't going to last anyway. — subtype `selection_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ it's over as fast as it starts. — subtype `minimisation` · outcome `negative`
      - **push the feeling** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when the work is bigger than the day; under real pressure I push the feeling aside until later — :
        id `0.0.2.2`
        - 🚫 there's nothing to be gained by feeling it out loud. — subtype `expressive_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 somebody has to be the flat surface. — subtype `role_bound_flatness` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I stopped noticing a long time ago. — subtype `alexithymic` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it's not that I don't feel it — it just doesn't get out. — subtype `sealed_expression` · outcome `negative`
      - **slow myself down** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when the work is bigger than the day; under real pressure I slow myself down deliberately — :
        id `0.0.2.3`
        - 🐢 rushing is what turns a problem into a mess. — subtype `deliberate_pacing` · outcome `positive`
        - 🌟 I've learned the hard way what happens otherwise. — subtype `fear_motivated_control` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌵 I can't afford to be wrong about this. — subtype `anxious_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 as long as nothing else lands on top of it. — subtype `fragile_contingency` · outcome `negative`
    - **something worth staying** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when it's something worth staying steady for; under real pressure I :
      id `0.0.3` · phrases: 🚫 set what I feel aside for now · 🛠️ hand it to someone less involved · ❌ put everything I have into it · 🦉 let myself feel it and act anyway
      - **set what I** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when it's something worth staying steady for; under real pressure I set what I feel aside for now — :
        id `0.0.3.0`
        - ⚠️ the thing in front of me is bigger than what I feel about it. — subtype `noble_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - ⏳ feelings can wait; this can't. — subtype `deferral` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 it's not the moment to be interesting about myself. — subtype `self_effacement` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍞 I'll get to it when it's finished. — subtype `indefinite_deferral` · outcome `negative`
      - **hand it to** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when it's something worth staying steady for; under real pressure I hand it to someone less involved — :
        id `0.0.3.1`
        - ✅ clear eyes beat close ones. — subtype `rationalised_abdication` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧵 I'd only be in my own way. — subtype `self_doubt` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ wanting it too much makes you worse at it. — subtype `disowned_investment` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏝️ someone else can carry it further than I can. — subtype `self_erasure` · outcome `negative`
      - **put everything I** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when it's something worth staying steady for; under real pressure I put everything I have into it — :
        id `0.0.3.2`
        - 🚫 there's no half-measure worth taking. — subtype `all_or_nothing` · outcome `negative`
        - 📯 you only get one run at something like this. — subtype `scarcity_driven` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 I can rest when it's done. — subtype `deferred_recovery` · outcome `negative`
        - 🪟 it's worth what it costs me. — subtype `self_sacrificial` · outcome `negative`
      - **let myself feel** — I'm someone who feels things strongly and straight away, and it serves me well when it's something worth staying steady for; under real pressure I let myself feel it and act anyway — :
        id `0.0.3.3`
        - 🫀 caring about it is part of doing it well. — subtype `integrated_affect` · outcome `wholesome`
        - 🖤 feeling it doesn't have to change what I do. — subtype `severed_affect` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌀 it would matter less if it were easier. — subtype `aestheticised_difficulty` · outcome `negative`
        - ☕ I can hold both as long as it doesn't last too long. — subtype `time_limited_capacity` · outcome `negative`
  - **very little gets** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when :
    id `0.1` · phrases: ❄️ everyone else is losing the thread · ☂️ something finally deserves a reaction · ⏳ there's more to do than time to do it · ⚔️ there's room to recover between demands
    - **everyone else is** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when everyone else is losing the thread; under real pressure I :
      id `0.1.0` · phrases: 🏠 stay completely level · ✅ say it while it's still true · 🧭 keep going and rest afterwards · ⏳ take the time I need before responding
      - **stay completely level** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when everyone else is losing the thread; under real pressure I stay completely level — :
        id `0.1.0.0`
        - 🚫 there's nothing to be gained by feeling it out loud. — subtype `expressive_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 somebody has to be the flat surface. — subtype `role_bound_flatness` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I stopped noticing a long time ago. — subtype `alexithymic` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it's not that I don't feel it — it just doesn't get out. — subtype `sealed_expression` · outcome `negative`
      - **say it while** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when everyone else is losing the thread; under real pressure I say it while it's still true — :
        id `0.1.0.1`
        - 🛡️ better out than festering. — subtype `discharge_as_hygiene` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 people know exactly where they are with me. — subtype `reactivity_as_identity` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 the ones who mind weren't going to last anyway. — subtype `selection_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ it's over as fast as it starts. — subtype `minimisation` · outcome `negative`
      - **keep going and** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when everyone else is losing the thread; under real pressure I keep going and rest afterwards — :
        id `0.1.0.2`
        - 🚫 stopping is what actually costs you. — subtype `momentum_dependence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I'm no good to anyone idle. — subtype `worth_contingent_output` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 rest is something you do afterwards. — subtype `deferred_recovery` · outcome `negative`
        - ❤️ I've never found the bottom of it. — subtype `limitless_self_appraisal` · outcome `negative`
      - **take the time** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when everyone else is losing the thread; under real pressure I take the time I need before responding — :
        id `0.1.0.3`
        - ⚖️ a slow answer is usually the right one. — subtype `chosen_pacing` · outcome `positive`
        - ⛺ I've said too much too fast before. — subtype `shame_motivated_restraint` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏰 as long as I get the gap, I'm fine. — subtype `conditional_regulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody's owed an answer on their timing. — subtype `oppositional_delay` · outcome `negative`
    - **something finally deserves** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when something finally deserves a reaction; under real pressure I :
      id `0.1.1` · phrases: ✅ say it while it's still true · 🏠 stay completely level · 🚫 add another gear · 🏡 let myself feel it and act anyway
      - **say it while** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when something finally deserves a reaction; under real pressure I say it while it's still true — :
        id `0.1.1.0`
        - 🧵 better out than festering. — subtype `discharge_as_hygiene` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 people know exactly where they are with me. — subtype `reactivity_as_identity` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 the ones who mind weren't going to last anyway. — subtype `selection_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ it's over as fast as it starts. — subtype `minimisation` · outcome `negative`
      - **stay completely level** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when something finally deserves a reaction; under real pressure I stay completely level — :
        id `0.1.1.1`
        - 🚫 there's nothing to be gained by feeling it out loud. — subtype `expressive_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 somebody has to be the flat surface. — subtype `role_bound_flatness` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I stopped noticing a long time ago. — subtype `alexithymic` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it's not that I don't feel it — it just doesn't get out. — subtype `sealed_expression` · outcome `negative`
      - **add another gear** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when something finally deserves a reaction; under real pressure I add another gear — :
        id `0.1.1.2`
        - 🚫 stopping is what actually costs you. — subtype `momentum_dependence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I'm no good to anyone idle. — subtype `worth_contingent_output` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 rest is something you do afterwards. — subtype `deferred_recovery` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏀 I've never found the bottom of it. — subtype `limitless_self_appraisal` · outcome `negative`
      - **let myself feel** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when something finally deserves a reaction; under real pressure I let myself feel it and act anyway — :
        id `0.1.1.3`
        - 🕳️ caring about it is part of doing it well. — subtype `integrated_affect` · outcome `wholesome`
        - 💗 feeling it doesn't have to change what I do. — subtype `severed_affect` · outcome `negative`
        - 📿 it would matter less if it were easier. — subtype `aestheticised_difficulty` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎿 I can hold both as long as it doesn't last too long. — subtype `time_limited_capacity` · outcome `negative`
    - **more to do** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when there's more to do than time to do it; under real pressure I :
      id `0.1.2` · phrases: 🚫 add another gear · 🕊️ let it out and get on with it · ⏳ push the feeling aside until later · 👣 slow myself down deliberately
      - **add another gear** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when there's more to do than time to do it; under real pressure I add another gear — :
        id `0.1.2.0`
        - 🚫 stopping is what actually costs you. — subtype `momentum_dependence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I'm no good to anyone idle. — subtype `worth_contingent_output` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 rest is something you do afterwards. — subtype `deferred_recovery` · outcome `negative`
        - 👩 I've never found the bottom of it. — subtype `limitless_self_appraisal` · outcome `negative`
      - **let it out** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when there's more to do than time to do it; under real pressure I let it out and get on with it — :
        id `0.1.2.1`
        - ❓ better out than festering. — subtype `discharge_as_hygiene` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 people know exactly where they are with me. — subtype `reactivity_as_identity` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 the ones who mind weren't going to last anyway. — subtype `selection_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ it's over as fast as it starts. — subtype `minimisation` · outcome `negative`
      - **push the feeling** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when there's more to do than time to do it; under real pressure I push the feeling aside until later — :
        id `0.1.2.2`
        - 🚫 there's nothing to be gained by feeling it out loud. — subtype `expressive_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 somebody has to be the flat surface. — subtype `role_bound_flatness` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I stopped noticing a long time ago. — subtype `alexithymic` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it's not that I don't feel it — it just doesn't get out. — subtype `sealed_expression` · outcome `negative`
      - **slow myself down** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when there's more to do than time to do it; under real pressure I slow myself down deliberately — :
        id `0.1.2.3`
        - ⌛ rushing is what turns a problem into a mess. — subtype `deliberate_pacing` · outcome `positive`
        - 🕶️ I've learned the hard way what happens otherwise. — subtype `fear_motivated_control` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏜️ I can't afford to be wrong about this. — subtype `anxious_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 as long as nothing else lands on top of it. — subtype `fragile_contingency` · outcome `negative`
    - **room to recover** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when there's room to recover between demands; under real pressure I :
      id `0.1.3` · phrases: ⏳ push the feeling aside until later · 🌳 put distance between me and it · 🧭 keep going and rest afterwards · ⚓ take the time I need before responding
      - **push the feeling** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when there's room to recover between demands; under real pressure I push the feeling aside until later — :
        id `0.1.3.0`
        - ⏳ there's a time for it, and it isn't then. — subtype `compartmentalisation` · outcome `negative`
        - ✅ it keeps until I'm somewhere it can't cost me. — subtype `deferred_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I've got a good place to put things. — subtype `container_fantasy` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍁 most of it doesn't survive the wait. — subtype `self_invalidation` · outcome `negative`
      - **put distance between** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when there's room to recover between demands; under real pressure I put distance between me and it — :
        id `0.1.3.1`
        - ✍️ space does what talking doesn't. — subtype `avoidance_as_method` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ I'm better company at a distance just then. — subtype `shame_withdrawal` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ closeness makes everything louder. — subtype `sensitivity_driven_avoidance` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 it's not a retreat if I come back. — subtype `rationalised_retreat` · outcome `negative`
      - **keep going and** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when there's room to recover between demands; under real pressure I keep going and rest afterwards — :
        id `0.1.3.2`
        - 🚫 you can't stop halfway through. — subtype `obligation_bound` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 the rest is earned afterwards. — subtype `conditional_rest` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫧 momentum is the only thing carrying it. — subtype `momentum_dependence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎿 I can always sleep it off. — subtype `recovery_deferred` · outcome `negative`
      - **take the time** — I'm someone who very little gets a rise out of, and it serves me well when there's room to recover between demands; under real pressure I take the time I need before responding — :
        id `0.1.3.3`
        - ⚖️ a slow answer is usually the right one. — subtype `chosen_pacing` · outcome `positive`
        - 👁️ I've said too much too fast before. — subtype `shame_motivated_restraint` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎩 as long as I get the gap, I'm fine. — subtype `conditional_regulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody's owed an answer on their timing. — subtype `oppositional_delay` · outcome `negative`
  - **doesn't run out** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when :
    id `0.2` · phrases: ⏳ there's more to do than time to do it · 🚫 the stakes are high enough to feel · ❓ nothing is asked of me but output · 🎨 the people around me are steady too
    - **more to do** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when there's more to do than time to do it; under real pressure I :
      id `0.2.0` · phrases: 🚫 add another gear · 😌 let it out and get on with it · ⏳ push the feeling aside until later · 💙 slow myself down deliberately
      - **add another gear** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when there's more to do than time to do it; under real pressure I add another gear — :
        id `0.2.0.0`
        - 🚫 stopping is what actually costs you. — subtype `momentum_dependence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I'm no good to anyone idle. — subtype `worth_contingent_output` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 rest is something you do afterwards. — subtype `deferred_recovery` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌷 I've never found the bottom of it. — subtype `limitless_self_appraisal` · outcome `negative`
      - **let it out** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when there's more to do than time to do it; under real pressure I let it out and get on with it — :
        id `0.2.0.1`
        - 🧡 better out than festering. — subtype `discharge_as_hygiene` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 people know exactly where they are with me. — subtype `reactivity_as_identity` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 the ones who mind weren't going to last anyway. — subtype `selection_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ it's over as fast as it starts. — subtype `minimisation` · outcome `negative`
      - **push the feeling** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when there's more to do than time to do it; under real pressure I push the feeling aside until later — :
        id `0.2.0.2`
        - 🚫 there's nothing to be gained by feeling it out loud. — subtype `expressive_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 somebody has to be the flat surface. — subtype `role_bound_flatness` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I stopped noticing a long time ago. — subtype `alexithymic` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it's not that I don't feel it — it just doesn't get out. — subtype `sealed_expression` · outcome `negative`
      - **slow myself down** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when there's more to do than time to do it; under real pressure I slow myself down deliberately — :
        id `0.2.0.3`
        - 🍞 rushing is what turns a problem into a mess. — subtype `deliberate_pacing` · outcome `positive`
        - 🎾 I've learned the hard way what happens otherwise. — subtype `fear_motivated_control` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛡️ I can't afford to be wrong about this. — subtype `anxious_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 as long as nothing else lands on top of it. — subtype `fragile_contingency` · outcome `negative`
    - **stakes are high** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when the stakes are high enough to feel; under real pressure I :
      id `0.2.1` · phrases: ✅ say it while it's still true · 🏠 stay completely level · 🚫 add another gear · 🍂 let myself feel it and act anyway
      - **say it while** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when the stakes are high enough to feel; under real pressure I say it while it's still true — :
        id `0.2.1.0`
        - 🎤 better out than festering. — subtype `discharge_as_hygiene` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 people know exactly where they are with me. — subtype `reactivity_as_identity` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 the ones who mind weren't going to last anyway. — subtype `selection_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ it's over as fast as it starts. — subtype `minimisation` · outcome `negative`
      - **stay completely level** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when the stakes are high enough to feel; under real pressure I stay completely level — :
        id `0.2.1.1`
        - 🚫 there's nothing to be gained by feeling it out loud. — subtype `expressive_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 somebody has to be the flat surface. — subtype `role_bound_flatness` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I stopped noticing a long time ago. — subtype `alexithymic` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it's not that I don't feel it — it just doesn't get out. — subtype `sealed_expression` · outcome `negative`
      - **add another gear** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when the stakes are high enough to feel; under real pressure I add another gear — :
        id `0.2.1.2`
        - 🚫 stopping is what actually costs you. — subtype `momentum_dependence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I'm no good to anyone idle. — subtype `worth_contingent_output` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 rest is something you do afterwards. — subtype `deferred_recovery` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏠 I've never found the bottom of it. — subtype `limitless_self_appraisal` · outcome `negative`
      - **let myself feel** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when the stakes are high enough to feel; under real pressure I let myself feel it and act anyway — :
        id `0.2.1.3`
        - 🏅 caring about it is part of doing it well. — subtype `integrated_affect` · outcome `wholesome`
        - 🦔 feeling it doesn't have to change what I do. — subtype `severed_affect` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧀 it would matter less if it were easier. — subtype `aestheticised_difficulty` · outcome `negative`
        - 🐺 I can hold both as long as it doesn't last too long. — subtype `time_limited_capacity` · outcome `negative`
    - **nothing is asked** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when nothing is asked of me but output; under real pressure I :
      id `0.2.2` · phrases: 🏠 stay completely level · ✅ say it while it's still true · 🧭 keep going and rest afterwards · ⏳ take the time I need before responding
      - **stay completely level** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when nothing is asked of me but output; under real pressure I stay completely level — :
        id `0.2.2.0`
        - 🚫 there's nothing to be gained by feeling it out loud. — subtype `expressive_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 somebody has to be the flat surface. — subtype `role_bound_flatness` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I stopped noticing a long time ago. — subtype `alexithymic` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it's not that I don't feel it — it just doesn't get out. — subtype `sealed_expression` · outcome `negative`
      - **say it while** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when nothing is asked of me but output; under real pressure I say it while it's still true — :
        id `0.2.2.1`
        - ❄️ better out than festering. — subtype `discharge_as_hygiene` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 people know exactly where they are with me. — subtype `reactivity_as_identity` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 the ones who mind weren't going to last anyway. — subtype `selection_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ it's over as fast as it starts. — subtype `minimisation` · outcome `negative`
      - **keep going and** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when nothing is asked of me but output; under real pressure I keep going and rest afterwards — :
        id `0.2.2.2`
        - 🚫 stopping is what actually costs you. — subtype `momentum_dependence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I'm no good to anyone idle. — subtype `worth_contingent_output` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 rest is something you do afterwards. — subtype `deferred_recovery` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍓 I've never found the bottom of it. — subtype `limitless_self_appraisal` · outcome `negative`
      - **take the time** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when nothing is asked of me but output; under real pressure I take the time I need before responding — :
        id `0.2.2.3`
        - ⚖️ a slow answer is usually the right one. — subtype `chosen_pacing` · outcome `positive`
        - 💛 I've said too much too fast before. — subtype `shame_motivated_restraint` · outcome `negative`
        - ⛵ as long as I get the gap, I'm fine. — subtype `conditional_regulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody's owed an answer on their timing. — subtype `oppositional_delay` · outcome `negative`
    - **people around me** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when the people around me are steady too; under real pressure I :
      id `0.2.3` · phrases: ✅ keep my face still and carry on · 💗 take myself out of the room · 🌵 match the pace around me · 🎭 settle myself before I say anything
      - **keep my face** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when the people around me are steady too; under real pressure I keep my face still and carry on — :
        id `0.2.3.0`
        - ✅ someone has to keep the temperature down. — subtype `role_bound_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🔥 it isn't fair to put it on anyone else. — subtype `over_responsibility` · outcome `negative`
        - 👣 it never lands the way I mean it to. — subtype `expressive_hopelessness` · outcome `negative`
        - 🥝 calm is the thing people rely on me for. — subtype `identity_bound_calm` · outcome `negative`
      - **take myself out** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when the people around me are steady too; under real pressure I take myself out of the room — :
        id `0.2.3.1`
        - 🖤 better absent than badly present. — subtype `avoidance_rationalised` · outcome `negative`
        - ⏳ I don't want to be the reason it escalates. — subtype `over_responsibility` · outcome `negative`
        - ✍️ rooms sort themselves out without me. — subtype `self_erasure` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍞 I only need a minute, usually. — subtype `minimised_avoidance` · outcome `negative`
      - **match the pace** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when the people around me are steady too; under real pressure I match the pace around me — :
        id `0.2.3.2`
        - 🕳️ you can't be the only one slowing down. — subtype `conformity` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌺 reading the room is most of the job. — subtype `over_attunement` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚂 it's easier to move with it than against it. — subtype `passive_entrainment` · outcome `negative`
        - 🪨 whatever the room needs, I can be. — subtype `self_abandonment` · outcome `negative`
      - **settle myself before** — I'm someone who doesn't run out of steam, and it serves me well when the people around me are steady too; under real pressure I settle myself before I say anything — :
        id `0.2.3.3`
        - 🧼 one steady voice changes what a room can do. — subtype `co_regulation_offered` · outcome `positive`
        - 🚫 nothing said in that state survives the morning. — subtype `rule_bound_restraint` · outcome `negative`
        - ☂️ I'd rather they didn't see me any other way. — subtype `image_management` · outcome `negative`
        - 💼 it only works if someone else holds it too. — subtype `borrowed_regulation` · outcome `negative`
  - **feels things fully** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when :
    id `0.3` · phrases: 🏠 things stay within a range I can predict · 🦊 the people around me are steady too · 🐘 there's room to recover between demands · 🐢 it's something worth staying steady for
    - **things stay within** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when things stay within a range I can predict; under real pressure I :
      id `0.3.0` · phrases: ☀️ hold it in until the moment passes · 🌂 step back out of it · 💼 work faster until it's behind me · 🪞 slow myself down deliberately
      - **hold it in** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when things stay within a range I can predict; under real pressure I hold it in until the moment passes — :
        id `0.3.0.0`
        - 🫀 nobody needs to see the working. — subtype `concealment` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌻 it passes quicker if I don't feed it. — subtype `suppression_rationalised` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌬️ I've never gained anything by showing it. — subtype `learned_inhibition` · outcome `negative`
        - ⛺ it's easier than explaining myself afterwards. — subtype `exposure_avoidance` · outcome `negative`
      - **step back out** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when things stay within a range I can predict; under real pressure I step back out of it — :
        id `0.3.0.1`
        - 💨 distance sorts out most of it. — subtype `avoidance_as_method` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'm no use to anyone in that state. — subtype `shame_withdrawal` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 there's no version of that conversation that goes well. — subtype `hopeless_prediction` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎲 I come back when I'm fit to. — subtype `conditional_reentry` · outcome `negative`
      - **work faster until** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when things stay within a range I can predict; under real pressure I work faster until it's behind me — :
        id `0.3.0.2`
        - 🌈 it's easier to outrun than to sit in. — subtype `flight_into_action` · outcome `negative`
        - 💼 work is the one thing that always steadies me. — subtype `activity_as_regulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 the feeling goes when the task does. — subtype `task_contingent_relief` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧀 I'd rather be tired than unsettled. — subtype `depletion_trade` · outcome `negative`
      - **slow myself down** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when things stay within a range I can predict; under real pressure I slow myself down deliberately — :
        id `0.3.0.3`
        - 🍒 rushing is what turns a problem into a mess. — subtype `deliberate_pacing` · outcome `positive`
        - 👑 I've learned the hard way what happens otherwise. — subtype `fear_motivated_control` · outcome `negative`
        - 🪖 I can't afford to be wrong about this. — subtype `anxious_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 as long as nothing else lands on top of it. — subtype `fragile_contingency` · outcome `negative`
    - **people around me** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when the people around me are steady too; under real pressure I :
      id `0.3.1` · phrases: ✅ keep my face still and carry on · 🐝 take myself out of the room · 🚲 match the pace around me · 🍷 settle myself before I say anything
      - **keep my face** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when the people around me are steady too; under real pressure I keep my face still and carry on — :
        id `0.3.1.0`
        - ✅ someone has to keep the temperature down. — subtype `role_bound_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏰 it isn't fair to put it on anyone else. — subtype `over_responsibility` · outcome `negative`
        - 👣 it never lands the way I mean it to. — subtype `expressive_hopelessness` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍯 calm is the thing people rely on me for. — subtype `identity_bound_calm` · outcome `negative`
      - **take myself out** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when the people around me are steady too; under real pressure I take myself out of the room — :
        id `0.3.1.1`
        - 🛏️ better absent than badly present. — subtype `avoidance_rationalised` · outcome `negative`
        - ⏳ I don't want to be the reason it escalates. — subtype `over_responsibility` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏰 rooms sort themselves out without me. — subtype `self_erasure` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏔️ I only need a minute, usually. — subtype `minimised_avoidance` · outcome `negative`
      - **match the pace** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when the people around me are steady too; under real pressure I match the pace around me — :
        id `0.3.1.2`
        - 🚫 you can't be the only one slowing down. — subtype `conformity` · outcome `negative`
        - 🕊️ reading the room is most of the job. — subtype `over_attunement` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it's easier to move with it than against it. — subtype `passive_entrainment` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫁 whatever the room needs, I can be. — subtype `self_abandonment` · outcome `negative`
      - **settle myself before** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when the people around me are steady too; under real pressure I settle myself before I say anything — :
        id `0.3.1.3`
        - 🏛️ one steady voice changes what a room can do. — subtype `co_regulation_offered` · outcome `positive`
        - 🚫 nothing said in that state survives the morning. — subtype `rule_bound_restraint` · outcome `negative`
        - 🦉 I'd rather they didn't see me any other way. — subtype `image_management` · outcome `negative`
        - 💼 it only works if someone else holds it too. — subtype `borrowed_regulation` · outcome `negative`
    - **room to recover** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when there's room to recover between demands; under real pressure I :
      id `0.3.2` · phrases: ⏳ push the feeling aside until later · 🧵 put distance between me and it · 🧭 keep going and rest afterwards · 🕶️ take the time I need before responding
      - **push the feeling** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when there's room to recover between demands; under real pressure I push the feeling aside until later — :
        id `0.3.2.0`
        - ⏳ there's a time for it, and it isn't then. — subtype `compartmentalisation` · outcome `negative`
        - ✅ it keeps until I'm somewhere it can't cost me. — subtype `deferred_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I've got a good place to put things. — subtype `container_fantasy` · outcome `negative`
        - 🐚 most of it doesn't survive the wait. — subtype `self_invalidation` · outcome `negative`
      - **put distance between** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when there's room to recover between demands; under real pressure I put distance between me and it — :
        id `0.3.2.1`
        - ✍️ space does what talking doesn't. — subtype `avoidance_as_method` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ I'm better company at a distance just then. — subtype `shame_withdrawal` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ closeness makes everything louder. — subtype `sensitivity_driven_avoidance` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 it's not a retreat if I come back. — subtype `rationalised_retreat` · outcome `negative`
      - **keep going and** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when there's room to recover between demands; under real pressure I keep going and rest afterwards — :
        id `0.3.2.2`
        - 🚫 you can't stop halfway through. — subtype `obligation_bound` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 the rest is earned afterwards. — subtype `conditional_rest` · outcome `negative`
        - 🪞 momentum is the only thing carrying it. — subtype `momentum_dependence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎿 I can always sleep it off. — subtype `recovery_deferred` · outcome `negative`
      - **take the time** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when there's room to recover between demands; under real pressure I take the time I need before responding — :
        id `0.3.2.3`
        - ⚖️ a slow answer is usually the right one. — subtype `chosen_pacing` · outcome `positive`
        - 🌂 I've said too much too fast before. — subtype `shame_motivated_restraint` · outcome `negative`
        - 🐝 as long as I get the gap, I'm fine. — subtype `conditional_regulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody's owed an answer on their timing. — subtype `oppositional_delay` · outcome `negative`
    - **something worth staying** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when it's something worth staying steady for; under real pressure I :
      id `0.3.3` · phrases: 🚫 set what I feel aside for now · 🛠️ hand it to someone less involved · 🥇 put everything I have into it · ☂️ let myself feel it and act anyway
      - **set what I** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when it's something worth staying steady for; under real pressure I set what I feel aside for now — :
        id `0.3.3.0`
        - 🌶️ the thing in front of me is bigger than what I feel about it. — subtype `noble_suppression` · outcome `negative`
        - ⏳ feelings can wait; this can't. — subtype `deferral` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 it's not the moment to be interesting about myself. — subtype `self_effacement` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 I'll get to it when it's finished. — subtype `indefinite_deferral` · outcome `negative`
      - **hand it to** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when it's something worth staying steady for; under real pressure I hand it to someone less involved — :
        id `0.3.3.1`
        - ✅ clear eyes beat close ones. — subtype `rationalised_abdication` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌊 I'd only be in my own way. — subtype `self_doubt` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ wanting it too much makes you worse at it. — subtype `disowned_investment` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌙 someone else can carry it further than I can. — subtype `self_erasure` · outcome `negative`
      - **put everything I** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when it's something worth staying steady for; under real pressure I put everything I have into it — :
        id `0.3.3.2`
        - 🚫 there's no half-measure worth taking. — subtype `all_or_nothing` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍞 you only get one run at something like this. — subtype `scarcity_driven` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 I can rest when it's done. — subtype `deferred_recovery` · outcome `negative`
        - 🪞 it's worth what it costs me. — subtype `self_sacrificial` · outcome `negative`
      - **let myself feel** — I'm someone who feels things fully and lets them pass, and it serves me well when it's something worth staying steady for; under real pressure I let myself feel it and act anyway — :
        id `0.3.3.3`
        - 🕳️ caring about it is part of doing it well. — subtype `integrated_affect` · outcome `wholesome`
        - 🎂 feeling it doesn't have to change what I do. — subtype `severed_affect` · outcome `negative`
        - 💤 it would matter less if it were easier. — subtype `aestheticised_difficulty` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍪 I can hold both as long as it doesn't last too long. — subtype `time_limited_capacity` · outcome `negative`
- **Belonging** — I'm the one who :
  id `1` · phrases: 💗 gives people everything I've got · 🌙 never needs much from anyone · ⚡ gets close to people fast · 🤝 is the same person with everyone
  - **gives people everything** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when :
    id `1.0` · phrases: 🧠 I know exactly where I stand with someone · 🫀 nobody's asking much of me · 🍀 there's real intensity to it · 🚪 we can be straight with each other
    - **know exactly where** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when I know exactly where I stand with someone; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.0.0` · phrases: 🧠 reach out until I know we're fine · 🧭 leave it and carry on as normal · ⚖️ either close it right down or give it plenty of room · ❓ say I've noticed and ask
      - **reach out until** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when I know exactly where I stand with someone; when things go quiet with someone, I reach out until I know we're fine — :
        id `1.0.0.0` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 👁️ people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 🍞 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **leave it and** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when I know exactly where I stand with someone; when things go quiet with someone, I leave it and carry on as normal — :
        id `1.0.0.1` · phrases: 🎩 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 🎬 everyone's entitled to their own space. · 🎧 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **either close it** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when I know exactly where I stand with someone; when things go quiet with someone, I either close it right down or give it plenty of room — :
        id `1.0.0.2` · phrases: 🐦 half-in is worse than out. · 🏡 you find out fast who's actually there. · 👁️ I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when I know exactly where I stand with someone; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask — :
        id `1.0.0.3` · phrases: ✨ most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
    - **nobody's asking much** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when nobody's asking much of me; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.0.1` · phrases: 🚫 carry on as normal and let it pass · 🩹 check in until I hear back · 🧡 find it matters far more than I expected · ⚖️ say I've noticed and ask if we're alright
      - **carry on as** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when nobody's asking much of me; when things go quiet with someone, I carry on as normal and let it pass — :
        id `1.0.1.0` · phrases: 🤍 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 🎲 everyone's entitled to their own space. · 🪡 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **check in until** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when nobody's asking much of me; when things go quiet with someone, I check in until I hear back — :
        id `1.0.1.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 👦 people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 🐺 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **find it matters** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when nobody's asking much of me; when things go quiet with someone, I find it matters far more than I expected — :
        id `1.0.1.2` · phrases: 💧 half-in is worse than out. · ⏳ you find out fast who's actually there. · 🌧️ I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when nobody's asking much of me; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask if we're alright — :
        id `1.0.1.3` · phrases: 🥝 most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
    - **real intensity to** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when there's real intensity to it; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.0.2` · phrases: ⚖️ either close it right down or give it all the space it needs · ✅ keep reaching out until it's settled · 🌬️ let it run its course · ✍️ name it and see what they say
      - **either close it** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when there's real intensity to it; when things go quiet with someone, I either close it right down or give it all the space it needs — :
        id `1.0.2.0` · phrases: 🎻 half-in is worse than out. · ✈️ you find out fast who's actually there. · 💤 I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **keep reaching out** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when there's real intensity to it; when things go quiet with someone, I keep reaching out until it's settled — :
        id `1.0.2.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · ✨ people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 🎲 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **let it run** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when there's real intensity to it; when things go quiet with someone, I let it run its course — :
        id `1.0.2.2` · phrases: 🍷 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 🌳 everyone's entitled to their own space. · 🧡 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **name it and** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when there's real intensity to it; when things go quiet with someone, I name it and see what they say — :
        id `1.0.2.3` · phrases: 🛡️ most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
    - **we can be** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when we can be straight with each other; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.0.3` · phrases: ❓ say I've noticed and ask · ✅ keep reaching out until it's resolved · 🍂 let it run its course · ⚙️ match whatever energy comes back
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when we can be straight with each other; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask — :
        id `1.0.3.0` · phrases: 🕯️ most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🚫 I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
      - **keep reaching out** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when we can be straight with each other; when things go quiet with someone, I keep reaching out until it's resolved — :
        id `1.0.3.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 🎓 people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 💯 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **let it run** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when we can be straight with each other; when things go quiet with someone, I let it run its course — :
        id `1.0.3.2` · phrases: 🐺 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 🧀 everyone's entitled to their own space. · 🌻 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **match whatever energy** — I'm the one who gives people everything I've got, and I'm easiest to be around when we can be straight with each other; when things go quiet with someone, I match whatever energy comes back — :
        id `1.0.3.3` · phrases: 📝 half-in is worse than out. · ⚓ you find out fast who's actually there. · 🎂 I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
  - **never needs much** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when :
    id `1.1` · phrases: 💨 I'm left to get on with things · 🛡️ I'm needed for something specific · ⚖️ it's someone I've just clicked with · 🧠 expectations run both ways and everyone knows them
    - **left to get** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm left to get on with things; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.1.0` · phrases: 🚫 carry on as normal and let it pass · 🎸 check in until I hear back · 💫 find it matters far more than I expected · ⚖️ say I've noticed and ask if we're alright
      - **carry on as** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm left to get on with things; when things go quiet with someone, I carry on as normal and let it pass — :
        id `1.1.0.0` · phrases: 👣 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 🦊 everyone's entitled to their own space. · 🎹 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **check in until** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm left to get on with things; when things go quiet with someone, I check in until I hear back — :
        id `1.1.0.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 📜 people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 👣 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **find it matters** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm left to get on with things; when things go quiet with someone, I find it matters far more than I expected — :
        id `1.1.0.2` · phrases: 🗺️ half-in is worse than out. · 🏜️ you find out fast who's actually there. · 🍂 I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm left to get on with things; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask if we're alright — :
        id `1.1.0.3` · phrases: 🪨 most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
    - **needed for something** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm needed for something specific; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.1.1` · phrases: 🧠 reach out until I know we're fine · 🧭 leave it and carry on as normal · ⚖️ either close it right down or give it plenty of room · ❓ say I've noticed and ask
      - **reach out until** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm needed for something specific; when things go quiet with someone, I reach out until I know we're fine — :
        id `1.1.1.0` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 🕊️ people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 🔥 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **leave it and** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm needed for something specific; when things go quiet with someone, I leave it and carry on as normal — :
        id `1.1.1.1` · phrases: 🐘 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 🐠 everyone's entitled to their own space. · 💋 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **either close it** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm needed for something specific; when things go quiet with someone, I either close it right down or give it plenty of room — :
        id `1.1.1.2` · phrases: 🏅 half-in is worse than out. · 🌶️ you find out fast who's actually there. · 🏠 I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm needed for something specific; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask — :
        id `1.1.1.3` · phrases: 🌈 most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
    - **someone I've just** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when it's someone I've just clicked with; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.1.2` · phrases: ⚖️ either close it right down or give it all the space it needs · ✅ keep reaching out until it's settled · 🪨 let it run its course · ✍️ name it and see what they say
      - **either close it** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when it's someone I've just clicked with; when things go quiet with someone, I either close it right down or give it all the space it needs — :
        id `1.1.2.0` · phrases: 🎩 half-in is worse than out. · 👣 you find out fast who's actually there. · 🕶️ I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **keep reaching out** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when it's someone I've just clicked with; when things go quiet with someone, I keep reaching out until it's settled — :
        id `1.1.2.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 🏛️ people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 💫 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **let it run** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when it's someone I've just clicked with; when things go quiet with someone, I let it run its course — :
        id `1.1.2.2` · phrases: ❄️ most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 🌀 everyone's entitled to their own space. · 🎾 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **name it and** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when it's someone I've just clicked with; when things go quiet with someone, I name it and see what they say — :
        id `1.1.2.3` · phrases: 🌀 most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
    - **expectations run both** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when expectations run both ways and everyone knows them; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.1.3` · phrases: ❓ say I've noticed and ask · ✅ keep reaching out until it's resolved · 🌵 let it run its course · 🐝 match whatever energy comes back
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when expectations run both ways and everyone knows them; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask — :
        id `1.1.3.0` · phrases: 🧀 most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
      - **keep reaching out** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when expectations run both ways and everyone knows them; when things go quiet with someone, I keep reaching out until it's resolved — :
        id `1.1.3.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 🪖 people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · ☕ I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **let it run** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when expectations run both ways and everyone knows them; when things go quiet with someone, I let it run its course — :
        id `1.1.3.2` · phrases: 💗 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · ❌ everyone's entitled to their own space. · ⚖️ I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **match whatever energy** — I'm the one who never needs much from anyone, and I'm easiest to be around when expectations run both ways and everyone knows them; when things go quiet with someone, I match whatever energy comes back — :
        id `1.1.3.3` · phrases: 🦊 half-in is worse than out. · 🍫 you find out fast who's actually there. · 🗝️ I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
  - **gets close to** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when :
    id `1.2` · phrases: 🚫 it's all or nothing rather than lukewarm · 🖤 I'm sure of my place in it · 🏰 there's room to step back when I need it · 🛠️ we've had time to build up to it
    - **all or nothing** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when it's all or nothing rather than lukewarm; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.2.0` · phrases: ⚖️ either close it right down or give it all the space it needs · ✅ keep reaching out until it's settled · 🐦 let it run its course · ✍️ name it and see what they say
      - **either close it** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when it's all or nothing rather than lukewarm; when things go quiet with someone, I either close it right down or give it all the space it needs — :
        id `1.2.0.0` · phrases: 💌 half-in is worse than out. · 🧡 you find out fast who's actually there. · 🌈 I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **keep reaching out** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when it's all or nothing rather than lukewarm; when things go quiet with someone, I keep reaching out until it's settled — :
        id `1.2.0.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · ⚡ people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 🦌 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **let it run** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when it's all or nothing rather than lukewarm; when things go quiet with someone, I let it run its course — :
        id `1.2.0.2` · phrases: 🎩 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 🖌️ everyone's entitled to their own space. · 💙 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **name it and** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when it's all or nothing rather than lukewarm; when things go quiet with someone, I name it and see what they say — :
        id `1.2.0.3` · phrases: ⚓ most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
    - **sure of my** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm sure of my place in it; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.2.1` · phrases: 🧠 reach out until I know we're fine · 🧭 leave it and carry on as normal · ⚖️ either close it right down or give it plenty of room · ❓ say I've noticed and ask
      - **reach out until** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm sure of my place in it; when things go quiet with someone, I reach out until I know we're fine — :
        id `1.2.1.0` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 🎤 people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · ⌛ I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **leave it and** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm sure of my place in it; when things go quiet with someone, I leave it and carry on as normal — :
        id `1.2.1.1` · phrases: 🍫 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 🧼 everyone's entitled to their own space. · ❌ I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **either close it** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm sure of my place in it; when things go quiet with someone, I either close it right down or give it plenty of room — :
        id `1.2.1.2` · phrases: 👶 half-in is worse than out. · 🏝️ you find out fast who's actually there. · 💫 I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when I'm sure of my place in it; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask — :
        id `1.2.1.3` · phrases: 🎲 most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
    - **room to step** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when there's room to step back when I need it; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.2.2` · phrases: 🚫 carry on as normal and let it pass · 🛏️ check in until I hear back · ☯️ find it matters far more than I expected · ⚖️ say I've noticed and ask if we're alright
      - **carry on as** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when there's room to step back when I need it; when things go quiet with someone, I carry on as normal and let it pass — :
        id `1.2.2.0` · phrases: 🎬 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · ❤️ everyone's entitled to their own space. · ☂️ I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **check in until** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when there's room to step back when I need it; when things go quiet with someone, I check in until I hear back — :
        id `1.2.2.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 🦊 people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 🐢 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **find it matters** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when there's room to step back when I need it; when things go quiet with someone, I find it matters far more than I expected — :
        id `1.2.2.2` · phrases: ⚖️ half-in is worse than out. · ⚡ you find out fast who's actually there. · ❗ I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when there's room to step back when I need it; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask if we're alright — :
        id `1.2.2.3` · phrases: 🩹 most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
    - **we've had time** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when we've had time to build up to it; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.2.3` · phrases: ❓ say I've noticed and ask · ✅ keep reaching out until it's resolved · 📖 let it run its course · 💙 match whatever energy comes back
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when we've had time to build up to it; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask — :
        id `1.2.3.0` · phrases: ⌛ most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
      - **keep reaching out** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when we've had time to build up to it; when things go quiet with someone, I keep reaching out until it's resolved — :
        id `1.2.3.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 💋 people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 📅 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **let it run** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when we've had time to build up to it; when things go quiet with someone, I let it run its course — :
        id `1.2.3.2` · phrases: 👁️ most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · ⚡ everyone's entitled to their own space. · 🔥 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **match whatever energy** — I'm the one who gets close to people fast, and I'm easiest to be around when we've had time to build up to it; when things go quiet with someone, I match whatever energy comes back — :
        id `1.2.3.3` · phrases: 🫁 half-in is worse than out. · ⭐ you find out fast who's actually there. · 🍉 I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
  - **same person with** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when :
    id `1.3` · phrases: 🦉 we can say the awkward thing to each other · 💜 I can tell that I'm valued · 🚫 nothing's being demanded of me · 💙 there's a real spark to it
    - **we can say** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when we can say the awkward thing to each other; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.3.0` · phrases: ❓ say I've noticed and ask · ✅ keep reaching out until it's resolved · 🌳 let it run its course · 🤍 match whatever energy comes back
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when we can say the awkward thing to each other; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask — :
        id `1.3.0.0` · phrases: 🎂 most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
      - **keep reaching out** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when we can say the awkward thing to each other; when things go quiet with someone, I keep reaching out until it's resolved — :
        id `1.3.0.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · ✈️ people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 💗 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **let it run** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when we can say the awkward thing to each other; when things go quiet with someone, I let it run its course — :
        id `1.3.0.2` · phrases: 🔥 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 👓 everyone's entitled to their own space. · 🎲 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **match whatever energy** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when we can say the awkward thing to each other; when things go quiet with someone, I match whatever energy comes back — :
        id `1.3.0.3` · phrases: 🍄 half-in is worse than out. · 💥 you find out fast who's actually there. · 🏆 I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
    - **can tell that** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I can tell that I'm valued; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.3.1` · phrases: 🧠 reach out until I know we're fine · 🧭 leave it and carry on as normal · ⚖️ either close it right down or give it plenty of room · ❓ say I've noticed and ask
      - **reach out until** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I can tell that I'm valued; when things go quiet with someone, I reach out until I know we're fine — :
        id `1.3.1.0` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 🚪 people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 🔑 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **leave it and** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I can tell that I'm valued; when things go quiet with someone, I leave it and carry on as normal — :
        id `1.3.1.1` · phrases: ⛵ most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 😌 everyone's entitled to their own space. · 🔑 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **either close it** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I can tell that I'm valued; when things go quiet with someone, I either close it right down or give it plenty of room — :
        id `1.3.1.2` · phrases: 🌼 half-in is worse than out. · 🧵 you find out fast who's actually there. · ⏰ I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when I can tell that I'm valued; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask — :
        id `1.3.1.3` · phrases: 💫 most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
    - **nothing's being demanded** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when nothing's being demanded of me; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.3.2` · phrases: 🚫 carry on as normal and let it pass · 🎓 check in until I hear back · ♟️ find it matters far more than I expected · ⚖️ say I've noticed and ask if we're alright
      - **carry on as** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when nothing's being demanded of me; when things go quiet with someone, I carry on as normal and let it pass — :
        id `1.3.2.0` · phrases: ⌛ most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 🌀 everyone's entitled to their own space. · 🌸 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **check in until** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when nothing's being demanded of me; when things go quiet with someone, I check in until I hear back — :
        id `1.3.2.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 🎺 people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 🎭 I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **find it matters** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when nothing's being demanded of me; when things go quiet with someone, I find it matters far more than I expected — :
        id `1.3.2.2` · phrases: ✈️ half-in is worse than out. · ❤️ you find out fast who's actually there. · 🦢 I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **say I've noticed** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when nothing's being demanded of me; when things go quiet with someone, I say I've noticed and ask if we're alright — :
        id `1.3.2.3` · phrases: 🚂 most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
    - **real spark to** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when there's a real spark to it; when things go quiet with someone, I :
      id `1.3.3` · phrases: ⚖️ either close it right down or give it all the space it needs · ✅ keep reaching out until it's settled · 👦 let it run its course · ✍️ name it and see what they say
      - **either close it** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when there's a real spark to it; when things go quiet with someone, I either close it right down or give it all the space it needs — :
        id `1.3.3.0` · phrases: 🧭 half-in is worse than out. · 🫁 you find out fast who's actually there. · 👓 I'd rather feel it than manage it. · ✅ the ones worth keeping come back.
      - **keep reaching out** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when there's a real spark to it; when things go quiet with someone, I keep reaching out until it's settled — :
        id `1.3.3.1` · phrases: 🧠 I'd rather know than wonder. · 💜 people shouldn't have to guess how much they matter. · 🗺️ I've lost people by leaving it too long. · 🚫 I'm usually the one who notices first.
      - **let it run** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when there's a real spark to it; when things go quiet with someone, I let it run its course — :
        id `1.3.3.2` · phrases: 🤝 most things sort themselves out without help. · 🛠️ I'd rather not make something out of nothing. · 🕯️ everyone's entitled to their own space. · 🎧 I've never needed much reassurance myself.
      - **name it and** — I'm the one who is the same person with everyone, and I'm easiest to be around when there's a real spark to it; when things go quiet with someone, I name it and see what they say — :
        id `1.3.3.3` · phrases: 🚲 most silences aren't about me. · ❓ it's easier to ask than to guess. · ⏳ people come back in their own time. · 🕯️ I'd say it even if it ended the friendship.
- **Building** — What I make is :
  id `2` · phrases: 🍒 held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with · 💗 the kind of thing that opens doors · 🚲 never quite like the last thing · 😴 made to last longer than my interest in it
  - **held to a** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when :
    id `2.0` · phrases: 🧭 nothing has to go out before it's ready · 💤 there's something on the other side of it · 🩹 I haven't done it before · ⚖️ the thing itself is worth getting right
    - **nothing has to** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when nothing has to go out before it's ready; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.0.0` · phrases: 🧭 keep going until nothing catches · ⭐ start lining up what it leads to · 🕶️ already have the next one going · 🚫 sit with it long enough to see what it actually is
      - **keep going until** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when nothing has to go out before it's ready; when it's nearly finished I keep going until nothing catches — :
        id `2.0.0.0`
        - 🧭 the standard isn't negotiable. — subtype `absolutist_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'd rather it not exist than exist badly. — subtype `annihilative_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧵 everyone else's bar is lower, not different. — subtype `comparative_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - ✨ it stops being mine the moment I let it slide. — subtype `identity_fused_standard` · outcome `negative`
      - **start lining up** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when nothing has to go out before it's ready; when it's nearly finished I start lining up what it leads to — :
        id `2.0.0.1`
        - 🧭 work that goes nowhere is a hobby. — subtype `instrumentalised_work` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍋 the point is what it gets you. — subtype `extrinsic_valuation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ you build a position, not a portfolio. — subtype `positional_accumulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody remembers the thing, only the level. — subtype `status_defined_worth` · outcome `negative`
      - **already have the** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when nothing has to go out before it's ready; when it's nearly finished I already have the next one going — :
        id `2.0.0.2`
        - 😴 the interesting part is over by then. — subtype `novelty_driven` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ finishing is just admin. — subtype `devalued_completion` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ I'd rather have started ten than finished one. — subtype `breadth_over_depth` · outcome `negative`
        - 🥁 the ones I abandon taught me the most. — subtype `rationalised_abandonment` · outcome `negative`
      - **sit with it** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when nothing has to go out before it's ready; when it's nearly finished I sit with it long enough to see what it actually is — :
        id `2.0.0.3`
        - 🍄 the thing is allowed to be what it is. — subtype `completed_and_released` · outcome `wholesome`
        - 💼 whatever happens to it now isn't the work. — subtype `severed_from_consequence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🦋 it took what it took out of me. — subtype `self_sacrificial_accounting` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I can leave it alone provided I don't look again. — subtype `conditional_release` · outcome `negative`
    - **something on the** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when there's something on the other side of it; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.0.1` · phrases: ⭐ start lining up what it leads to · 🧭 keep going until nothing catches · 😴 lose interest in the last stretch · 👦 read it as if I'd never seen it
      - **start lining up** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when there's something on the other side of it; when it's nearly finished I start lining up what it leads to — :
        id `2.0.1.0`
        - 🧭 work that goes nowhere is a hobby. — subtype `instrumentalised_work` · outcome `negative`
        - 💍 the point is what it gets you. — subtype `extrinsic_valuation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ you build a position, not a portfolio. — subtype `positional_accumulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody remembers the thing, only the level. — subtype `status_defined_worth` · outcome `negative`
      - **keep going until** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when there's something on the other side of it; when it's nearly finished I keep going until nothing catches — :
        id `2.0.1.1`
        - 🧭 the standard isn't negotiable. — subtype `absolutist_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'd rather it not exist than exist badly. — subtype `annihilative_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 📝 everyone else's bar is lower, not different. — subtype `comparative_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - 🗝️ it stops being mine the moment I let it slide. — subtype `identity_fused_standard` · outcome `negative`
      - **lose interest in** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when there's something on the other side of it; when it's nearly finished I lose interest in the last stretch — :
        id `2.0.1.2`
        - 😴 the interesting part is over by then. — subtype `novelty_driven` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ finishing is just admin. — subtype `devalued_completion` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ I'd rather have started ten than finished one. — subtype `breadth_over_depth` · outcome `negative`
        - ☂️ the ones I abandon taught me the most. — subtype `rationalised_abandonment` · outcome `negative`
      - **read it as** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when there's something on the other side of it; when it's nearly finished I read it as if I'd never seen it — :
        id `2.0.1.3`
        - ✅ fresh eyes are the only real test, and mine can be. — subtype `internalised_check` · outcome `positive`
        - 🧵 I'd rather find it than have them find it. — subtype `shame_driven_review` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 it has to survive someone who'd know. — subtype `externally_licensed` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏀 their opinion is the version that counts. — subtype `borrowed_standard` · outcome `negative`
    - **haven't done it** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when I haven't done it before; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.0.2` · phrases: 🧭 already have the next one going · 👁️ keep going over it until nothing catches · 🧠 think about what it could become · 🍪 check it once properly and call it done
      - **already have the** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when I haven't done it before; when it's nearly finished I already have the next one going — :
        id `2.0.2.0`
        - 😴 the interesting part is over by then. — subtype `novelty_driven` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ finishing is just admin. — subtype `devalued_completion` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ I'd rather have started ten than finished one. — subtype `breadth_over_depth` · outcome `negative`
        - ❄️ the ones I abandon taught me the most. — subtype `rationalised_abandonment` · outcome `negative`
      - **keep going over** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when I haven't done it before; when it's nearly finished I keep going over it until nothing catches — :
        id `2.0.2.1`
        - 🧭 the standard isn't negotiable. — subtype `absolutist_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'd rather it not exist than exist badly. — subtype `annihilative_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - ☂️ everyone else's bar is lower, not different. — subtype `comparative_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛏️ it stops being mine the moment I let it slide. — subtype `identity_fused_standard` · outcome `negative`
      - **think about what** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when I haven't done it before; when it's nearly finished I think about what it could become — :
        id `2.0.2.2`
        - 🧭 work that goes nowhere is a hobby. — subtype `instrumentalised_work` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌈 the point is what it gets you. — subtype `extrinsic_valuation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ you build a position, not a portfolio. — subtype `positional_accumulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody remembers the thing, only the level. — subtype `status_defined_worth` · outcome `negative`
      - **check it once** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when I haven't done it before; when it's nearly finished I check it once properly and call it done — :
        id `2.0.2.3`
        - 🚫 done is a real state, not a feeling. — subtype `criterion_based_completion` · outcome `positive`
        - 🚪 if I look again I'll find something. — subtype `avoidance_as_decisiveness` · outcome `negative`
        - ⏳ it's only finished because nobody's waiting. — subtype `exposed_contingency` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ nothing I make gets looked at that closely. — subtype `self_devaluation` · outcome `negative`
    - **thing itself is** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when the thing itself is worth getting right; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.0.3` · phrases: 💼 keep working until it stops bothering me · 🧭 let it go before I ruin it · 🛠️ think about what it makes possible next · 🚫 sit with it long enough to see what it actually is
      - **keep working until** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when the thing itself is worth getting right; when it's nearly finished I keep working until it stops bothering me — :
        id `2.0.3.0`
        - ⚖️ it isn't right until it stops nagging. — subtype `affect_as_criterion` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎁 the thing deserves better than I've given it. — subtype `moralised_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 close enough has never been a category for me. — subtype `absolutism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 I'll know when it's there. — subtype `unfalsifiable_criterion` · outcome `negative`
      - **let it go** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when the thing itself is worth getting right; when it's nearly finished I let it go before I ruin it — :
        id `2.0.3.1`
        - 🕯️ you can work a thing to death. — subtype `rationalised_flight` · outcome `negative`
        - 📅 past a point I'm only leaving fingerprints. — subtype `self_doubt` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍫 it's better than what I'd do to it next. — subtype `negative_self_appraisal` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌱 leaving it alone is a decision too. — subtype `passivity_as_judgement` · outcome `negative`
      - **think about what** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when the thing itself is worth getting right; when it's nearly finished I think about what it makes possible next — :
        id `2.0.3.2`
        - 🧭 a good thing should go somewhere. — subtype `instrumentalisation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🦉 the point was never the single object. — subtype `devalued_particular` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ it's the start of something bigger. — subtype `deferred_value` · outcome `negative`
        - 🕊️ what it opens up is the real return. — subtype `return_thinking` · outcome `negative`
      - **sit with it** — What I make is held to a standard most people wouldn't bother with, and the work goes best when the thing itself is worth getting right; when it's nearly finished I sit with it long enough to see what it actually is — :
        id `2.0.3.3`
        - 🎯 the thing is allowed to be what it is. — subtype `completed_and_released` · outcome `wholesome`
        - 💼 whatever happens to it now isn't the work. — subtype `severed_from_consequence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ it took what it took out of me. — subtype `self_sacrificial_accounting` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I can leave it alone provided I don't look again. — subtype `conditional_release` · outcome `negative`
  - **kind of thing** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when :
    id `2.1` · phrases: 🏆 there's something on the other side of it · 🧭 nothing has to go out before it's ready · 🫀 it's ground nobody's covered yet · ⛵ someone I respect is going to see it
    - **something on the** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when there's something on the other side of it; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.1.0` · phrases: ⭐ start lining up what it leads to · 🧭 keep going until nothing catches · 😴 lose interest in the last stretch · ⚠️ read it as if I'd never seen it
      - **start lining up** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when there's something on the other side of it; when it's nearly finished I start lining up what it leads to — :
        id `2.1.0.0`
        - 🧭 work that goes nowhere is a hobby. — subtype `instrumentalised_work` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎤 the point is what it gets you. — subtype `extrinsic_valuation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ you build a position, not a portfolio. — subtype `positional_accumulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody remembers the thing, only the level. — subtype `status_defined_worth` · outcome `negative`
      - **keep going until** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when there's something on the other side of it; when it's nearly finished I keep going until nothing catches — :
        id `2.1.0.1`
        - 🧭 the standard isn't negotiable. — subtype `absolutist_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'd rather it not exist than exist badly. — subtype `annihilative_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍞 everyone else's bar is lower, not different. — subtype `comparative_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - ☕ it stops being mine the moment I let it slide. — subtype `identity_fused_standard` · outcome `negative`
      - **lose interest in** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when there's something on the other side of it; when it's nearly finished I lose interest in the last stretch — :
        id `2.1.0.2`
        - 😴 the interesting part is over by then. — subtype `novelty_driven` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ finishing is just admin. — subtype `devalued_completion` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ I'd rather have started ten than finished one. — subtype `breadth_over_depth` · outcome `negative`
        - 🗝️ the ones I abandon taught me the most. — subtype `rationalised_abandonment` · outcome `negative`
      - **read it as** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when there's something on the other side of it; when it's nearly finished I read it as if I'd never seen it — :
        id `2.1.0.3`
        - ✅ fresh eyes are the only real test, and mine can be. — subtype `internalised_check` · outcome `positive`
        - 🪖 I'd rather find it than have them find it. — subtype `shame_driven_review` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 it has to survive someone who'd know. — subtype `externally_licensed` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌶️ their opinion is the version that counts. — subtype `borrowed_standard` · outcome `negative`
    - **nothing has to** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when nothing has to go out before it's ready; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.1.1` · phrases: 🧭 keep going until nothing catches · ⭐ start lining up what it leads to · 💯 already have the next one going · 🚫 sit with it long enough to see what it actually is
      - **keep going until** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when nothing has to go out before it's ready; when it's nearly finished I keep going until nothing catches — :
        id `2.1.1.0`
        - 🧭 the standard isn't negotiable. — subtype `absolutist_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'd rather it not exist than exist badly. — subtype `annihilative_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🥁 everyone else's bar is lower, not different. — subtype `comparative_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - 🐢 it stops being mine the moment I let it slide. — subtype `identity_fused_standard` · outcome `negative`
      - **start lining up** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when nothing has to go out before it's ready; when it's nearly finished I start lining up what it leads to — :
        id `2.1.1.1`
        - 🧭 work that goes nowhere is a hobby. — subtype `instrumentalised_work` · outcome `negative`
        - 💨 the point is what it gets you. — subtype `extrinsic_valuation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ you build a position, not a portfolio. — subtype `positional_accumulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody remembers the thing, only the level. — subtype `status_defined_worth` · outcome `negative`
      - **already have the** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when nothing has to go out before it's ready; when it's nearly finished I already have the next one going — :
        id `2.1.1.2`
        - 😴 the interesting part is over by then. — subtype `novelty_driven` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ finishing is just admin. — subtype `devalued_completion` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ I'd rather have started ten than finished one. — subtype `breadth_over_depth` · outcome `negative`
        - 🥁 the ones I abandon taught me the most. — subtype `rationalised_abandonment` · outcome `negative`
      - **sit with it** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when nothing has to go out before it's ready; when it's nearly finished I sit with it long enough to see what it actually is — :
        id `2.1.1.3`
        - 🌊 the thing is allowed to be what it is. — subtype `completed_and_released` · outcome `wholesome`
        - 💼 whatever happens to it now isn't the work. — subtype `severed_from_consequence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🕳️ it took what it took out of me. — subtype `self_sacrificial_accounting` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I can leave it alone provided I don't look again. — subtype `conditional_release` · outcome `negative`
    - **ground nobody's covered** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when it's ground nobody's covered yet; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.1.2` · phrases: 🧭 already have the next one going · 📯 keep going over it until nothing catches · 🧠 think about what it could become · 🍎 check it once properly and call it done
      - **already have the** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when it's ground nobody's covered yet; when it's nearly finished I already have the next one going — :
        id `2.1.2.0`
        - 😴 the interesting part is over by then. — subtype `novelty_driven` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ finishing is just admin. — subtype `devalued_completion` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ I'd rather have started ten than finished one. — subtype `breadth_over_depth` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎧 the ones I abandon taught me the most. — subtype `rationalised_abandonment` · outcome `negative`
      - **keep going over** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when it's ground nobody's covered yet; when it's nearly finished I keep going over it until nothing catches — :
        id `2.1.2.1`
        - 🧭 the standard isn't negotiable. — subtype `absolutist_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'd rather it not exist than exist badly. — subtype `annihilative_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎤 everyone else's bar is lower, not different. — subtype `comparative_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎧 it stops being mine the moment I let it slide. — subtype `identity_fused_standard` · outcome `negative`
      - **think about what** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when it's ground nobody's covered yet; when it's nearly finished I think about what it could become — :
        id `2.1.2.2`
        - 🧭 work that goes nowhere is a hobby. — subtype `instrumentalised_work` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧼 the point is what it gets you. — subtype `extrinsic_valuation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ you build a position, not a portfolio. — subtype `positional_accumulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody remembers the thing, only the level. — subtype `status_defined_worth` · outcome `negative`
      - **check it once** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when it's ground nobody's covered yet; when it's nearly finished I check it once properly and call it done — :
        id `2.1.2.3`
        - 🚫 done is a real state, not a feeling. — subtype `criterion_based_completion` · outcome `positive`
        - 🤍 if I look again I'll find something. — subtype `avoidance_as_decisiveness` · outcome `negative`
        - ⏳ it's only finished because nobody's waiting. — subtype `exposed_contingency` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ nothing I make gets looked at that closely. — subtype `self_devaluation` · outcome `negative`
    - **someone I respect** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when someone I respect is going to see it; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.1.3` · phrases: 🧭 go back over the parts they'd notice · 🕯️ send it before I lose my nerve · ⭐ start working out how to show it · 🥑 read it as if I'd never seen it
      - **go back over** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when someone I respect is going to see it; when it's nearly finished I go back over the parts they'd notice — :
        id `2.1.3.0`
        - 🫀 they'd spot it even if nobody else would. — subtype `audience_calibrated_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'd rather not have to explain that bit. — subtype `defensive_polish` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it should be right before it's seen. — subtype `exposure_anxiety` · outcome `negative`
        - ⌛ their standard is the one I use. — subtype `borrowed_standard` · outcome `negative`
      - **send it before** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when someone I respect is going to see it; when it's nearly finished I send it before I lose my nerve — :
        id `2.1.3.1`
        - ✍️ if I wait I'll talk myself out of it. — subtype `anxious_release` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 showing it is the hard part, not making it. — subtype `exposure_aversion` · outcome `negative`
        - 🦉 I stop being able to judge it after a while. — subtype `dissociated_judgement` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧼 better seen than perfect. — subtype `rationalised_flight` · outcome `negative`
      - **start working out** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when someone I respect is going to see it; when it's nearly finished I start working out how to show it — :
        id `2.1.3.2`
        - ⚖️ the right person seeing it changes what it is. — subtype `reception_defined_value` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎻 one showing leads to the next. — subtype `instrumentalised_work` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛡️ it's worth more in front of people than in a drawer. — subtype `exposure_as_value` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 I'm already thinking about who else should see it. — subtype `audience_expansion` · outcome `negative`
      - **read it as** — What I make is the kind of thing that opens doors, and the work goes best when someone I respect is going to see it; when it's nearly finished I read it as if I'd never seen it — :
        id `2.1.3.3`
        - ✅ fresh eyes are the only real test, and mine can be. — subtype `internalised_check` · outcome `positive`
        - ☀️ I'd rather find it than have them find it. — subtype `shame_driven_review` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 it has to survive someone who'd know. — subtype `externally_licensed` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌻 their opinion is the version that counts. — subtype `borrowed_standard` · outcome `negative`
  - **never quite like** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when :
    id `2.2` · phrases: 🫁 I haven't done it before · 🚫 there's no deadline forcing it out · ⚡ it could turn into something much larger · 🧠 I've done enough of them to know the shape
    - **haven't done it** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when I haven't done it before; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.2.0` · phrases: 🧭 already have the next one going · 🕳️ keep going over it until nothing catches · 🧠 think about what it could become · 🫀 check it once properly and call it done
      - **already have the** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when I haven't done it before; when it's nearly finished I already have the next one going — :
        id `2.2.0.0`
        - 😴 the interesting part is over by then. — subtype `novelty_driven` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ finishing is just admin. — subtype `devalued_completion` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ I'd rather have started ten than finished one. — subtype `breadth_over_depth` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍉 the ones I abandon taught me the most. — subtype `rationalised_abandonment` · outcome `negative`
      - **keep going over** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when I haven't done it before; when it's nearly finished I keep going over it until nothing catches — :
        id `2.2.0.1`
        - 🧭 the standard isn't negotiable. — subtype `absolutist_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'd rather it not exist than exist badly. — subtype `annihilative_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫂 everyone else's bar is lower, not different. — subtype `comparative_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧵 it stops being mine the moment I let it slide. — subtype `identity_fused_standard` · outcome `negative`
      - **think about what** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when I haven't done it before; when it's nearly finished I think about what it could become — :
        id `2.2.0.2`
        - 🧭 work that goes nowhere is a hobby. — subtype `instrumentalised_work` · outcome `negative`
        - 💯 the point is what it gets you. — subtype `extrinsic_valuation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ you build a position, not a portfolio. — subtype `positional_accumulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody remembers the thing, only the level. — subtype `status_defined_worth` · outcome `negative`
      - **check it once** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when I haven't done it before; when it's nearly finished I check it once properly and call it done — :
        id `2.2.0.3`
        - 🚫 done is a real state, not a feeling. — subtype `criterion_based_completion` · outcome `positive`
        - ✨ if I look again I'll find something. — subtype `avoidance_as_decisiveness` · outcome `negative`
        - ⏳ it's only finished because nobody's waiting. — subtype `exposed_contingency` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ nothing I make gets looked at that closely. — subtype `self_devaluation` · outcome `negative`
    - **no deadline forcing** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when there's no deadline forcing it out; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.2.1` · phrases: 🧭 keep going until nothing catches · ⭐ start lining up what it leads to · ❤️ already have the next one going · 🚫 sit with it long enough to see what it actually is
      - **keep going until** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when there's no deadline forcing it out; when it's nearly finished I keep going until nothing catches — :
        id `2.2.1.0`
        - 🧭 the standard isn't negotiable. — subtype `absolutist_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'd rather it not exist than exist badly. — subtype `annihilative_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🥁 everyone else's bar is lower, not different. — subtype `comparative_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - 👑 it stops being mine the moment I let it slide. — subtype `identity_fused_standard` · outcome `negative`
      - **start lining up** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when there's no deadline forcing it out; when it's nearly finished I start lining up what it leads to — :
        id `2.2.1.1`
        - 🧭 work that goes nowhere is a hobby. — subtype `instrumentalised_work` · outcome `negative`
        - 🕶️ the point is what it gets you. — subtype `extrinsic_valuation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ you build a position, not a portfolio. — subtype `positional_accumulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody remembers the thing, only the level. — subtype `status_defined_worth` · outcome `negative`
      - **already have the** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when there's no deadline forcing it out; when it's nearly finished I already have the next one going — :
        id `2.2.1.2`
        - 😴 the interesting part is over by then. — subtype `novelty_driven` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ finishing is just admin. — subtype `devalued_completion` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ I'd rather have started ten than finished one. — subtype `breadth_over_depth` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎯 the ones I abandon taught me the most. — subtype `rationalised_abandonment` · outcome `negative`
      - **sit with it** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when there's no deadline forcing it out; when it's nearly finished I sit with it long enough to see what it actually is — :
        id `2.2.1.3`
        - 🦊 the thing is allowed to be what it is. — subtype `completed_and_released` · outcome `wholesome`
        - 💼 whatever happens to it now isn't the work. — subtype `severed_from_consequence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🔔 it took what it took out of me. — subtype `self_sacrificial_accounting` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I can leave it alone provided I don't look again. — subtype `conditional_release` · outcome `negative`
    - **could turn into** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when it could turn into something much larger; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.2.2` · phrases: ⭐ start lining up what it leads to · 🧭 keep going until nothing catches · 😴 lose interest in the last stretch · 🎹 read it as if I'd never seen it
      - **start lining up** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when it could turn into something much larger; when it's nearly finished I start lining up what it leads to — :
        id `2.2.2.0`
        - 🧭 work that goes nowhere is a hobby. — subtype `instrumentalised_work` · outcome `negative`
        - 🐺 the point is what it gets you. — subtype `extrinsic_valuation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ you build a position, not a portfolio. — subtype `positional_accumulation` · outcome `negative`
        - 🫀 nobody remembers the thing, only the level. — subtype `status_defined_worth` · outcome `negative`
      - **keep going until** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when it could turn into something much larger; when it's nearly finished I keep going until nothing catches — :
        id `2.2.2.1`
        - 🧭 the standard isn't negotiable. — subtype `absolutist_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'd rather it not exist than exist badly. — subtype `annihilative_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - ⏰ everyone else's bar is lower, not different. — subtype `comparative_contempt` · outcome `negative`
        - 👧 it stops being mine the moment I let it slide. — subtype `identity_fused_standard` · outcome `negative`
      - **lose interest in** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when it could turn into something much larger; when it's nearly finished I lose interest in the last stretch — :
        id `2.2.2.2`
        - 😴 the interesting part is over by then. — subtype `novelty_driven` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ finishing is just admin. — subtype `devalued_completion` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ I'd rather have started ten than finished one. — subtype `breadth_over_depth` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏠 the ones I abandon taught me the most. — subtype `rationalised_abandonment` · outcome `negative`
      - **read it as** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when it could turn into something much larger; when it's nearly finished I read it as if I'd never seen it — :
        id `2.2.2.3`
        - ✅ fresh eyes are the only real test, and mine can be. — subtype `internalised_check` · outcome `positive`
        - 🏅 I'd rather find it than have them find it. — subtype `shame_driven_review` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 it has to survive someone who'd know. — subtype `externally_licensed` · outcome `negative`
        - 😌 their opinion is the version that counts. — subtype `borrowed_standard` · outcome `negative`
    - **done enough of** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when I've done enough of them to know the shape; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.2.3` · phrases: 🧠 keep tightening what I already know works · 🛠️ hand it over and move on · 🍂 think about how many more of these there could be · 👩 look hardest at the part I did on instinct
      - **keep tightening what** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when I've done enough of them to know the shape; when it's nearly finished I keep tightening what I already know works — :
        id `2.2.3.0`
        - ⚖️ the shape is right; it's the finish that isn't. — subtype `endless_refinement` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I know exactly where these go wrong. — subtype `expertise_as_anxiety` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎯 the more I've made, the less I'll let past. — subtype `escalating_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 there's always another pass in it. — subtype `unbounded_refinement` · outcome `negative`
      - **hand it over** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when I've done enough of them to know the shape; when it's nearly finished I hand it over and move on — :
        id `2.2.3.1`
        - 🛠️ past a point I'm just handling it. — subtype `boredom_driven_release` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 I've made this before; I know it's fine. — subtype `complacent_closure` · outcome `negative`
        - 🪨 it doesn't need me any more. — subtype `premature_detachment` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 the interesting part was earlier. — subtype `novelty_flight` · outcome `negative`
      - **think about how** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when I've done enough of them to know the shape; when it's nearly finished I think about how many more of these there could be — :
        id `2.2.3.2`
        - 🗺️ the real value is in doing it again. — subtype `repetition_as_product` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ one of these teaches you how to make ten. — subtype `scale_thinking` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎩 the method is worth more than any one of them. — subtype `abstraction_flight` · outcome `negative`
        - 🪖 I could run this out a long way. — subtype `expansion` · outcome `negative`
      - **look hardest at** — What I make is never quite like the last thing, and the work goes best when I've done enough of them to know the shape; when it's nearly finished I look hardest at the part I did on instinct — :
        id `2.2.3.3`
        - 🧠 the parts I did without thinking are the ones to check. — subtype `fluency_as_risk` · outcome `positive`
        - 🐦 I've been wrong about this exact thing before. — subtype `fear_motivated_review` · outcome `negative`
        - ✅ experience is the only thing keeping it honest. — subtype `competence_reliance` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍺 on unfamiliar ground I wouldn't trust myself at all. — subtype `exposed_contingency` · outcome `negative`
  - **made to last** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when :
    id `2.3` · phrases: ⏳ nobody's waiting on it · 🧭 someone I respect is going to see it · 🧠 I've done enough of them to know the shape · ⚖️ the thing itself is worth getting right
    - **nobody's waiting on** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when nobody's waiting on it; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.3.0` · phrases: 🧭 keep going over it until nothing catches · 🛠️ get it out of my hands quickly · 🧠 start thinking about what it could become · 💛 check it once properly and call it done
      - **keep going over** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when nobody's waiting on it; when it's nearly finished I keep going over it until nothing catches — :
        id `2.3.0.0`
        - 🚫 nothing's due, so nothing's rushed. — subtype `unbounded_refinement` · outcome `negative`
        - ⏳ I'd rather it be late than wrong. — subtype `deadline_immune` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌪️ the last ten percent is the whole thing. — subtype `diminishing_returns_fallacy` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ I only notice the flaws once it's still. — subtype `hypercritical_attention` · outcome `negative`
      - **get it out** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when nobody's waiting on it; when it's nearly finished I get it out of my hands quickly — :
        id `2.3.0.1`
        - 🛠️ looking at it too long makes it worse. — subtype `avoidant_finishing` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 it's finished when I stop wanting to see it. — subtype `aversion_as_criterion` · outcome `negative`
        - 🦋 I don't get anything out of the last stretch. — subtype `anhedonic_completion` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 the next one's always more interesting. — subtype `novelty_flight` · outcome `negative`
      - **start thinking about** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when nobody's waiting on it; when it's nearly finished I start thinking about what it could become — :
        id `2.3.0.2`
        - ⚖️ one of these is never just one. — subtype `premature_scaling` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 the idea is worth more than the object. — subtype `abstraction_flight` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍯 finishing is the least of it. — subtype `devalued_completion` · outcome `negative`
        - 📯 I can see the whole series already. — subtype `grandiose_projection` · outcome `negative`
      - **check it once** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when nobody's waiting on it; when it's nearly finished I check it once properly and call it done — :
        id `2.3.0.3`
        - 🚫 done is a real state, not a feeling. — subtype `criterion_based_completion` · outcome `positive`
        - 🕯️ if I look again I'll find something. — subtype `avoidance_as_decisiveness` · outcome `negative`
        - ⏳ it's only finished because nobody's waiting. — subtype `exposed_contingency` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ nothing I make gets looked at that closely. — subtype `self_devaluation` · outcome `negative`
    - **someone I respect** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when someone I respect is going to see it; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.3.1` · phrases: 🧭 go back over the parts they'd notice · 🕯️ send it before I lose my nerve · ⭐ start working out how to show it · 🌺 read it as if I'd never seen it
      - **go back over** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when someone I respect is going to see it; when it's nearly finished I go back over the parts they'd notice — :
        id `2.3.1.0`
        - 🫀 they'd spot it even if nobody else would. — subtype `audience_calibrated_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 I'd rather not have to explain that bit. — subtype `defensive_polish` · outcome `negative`
        - ⚖️ it should be right before it's seen. — subtype `exposure_anxiety` · outcome `negative`
        - 💜 their standard is the one I use. — subtype `borrowed_standard` · outcome `negative`
      - **send it before** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when someone I respect is going to see it; when it's nearly finished I send it before I lose my nerve — :
        id `2.3.1.1`
        - ✍️ if I wait I'll talk myself out of it. — subtype `anxious_release` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 showing it is the hard part, not making it. — subtype `exposure_aversion` · outcome `negative`
        - 🖤 I stop being able to judge it after a while. — subtype `dissociated_judgement` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎭 better seen than perfect. — subtype `rationalised_flight` · outcome `negative`
      - **start working out** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when someone I respect is going to see it; when it's nearly finished I start working out how to show it — :
        id `2.3.1.2`
        - ⚖️ the right person seeing it changes what it is. — subtype `reception_defined_value` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌱 one showing leads to the next. — subtype `instrumentalised_work` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌬️ it's worth more in front of people than in a drawer. — subtype `exposure_as_value` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 I'm already thinking about who else should see it. — subtype `audience_expansion` · outcome `negative`
      - **read it as** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when someone I respect is going to see it; when it's nearly finished I read it as if I'd never seen it — :
        id `2.3.1.3`
        - ✅ fresh eyes are the only real test, and mine can be. — subtype `internalised_check` · outcome `positive`
        - ⚽ I'd rather find it than have them find it. — subtype `shame_driven_review` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 it has to survive someone who'd know. — subtype `externally_licensed` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏡 their opinion is the version that counts. — subtype `borrowed_standard` · outcome `negative`
    - **done enough of** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when I've done enough of them to know the shape; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.3.2` · phrases: 🧠 keep tightening what I already know works · 🛠️ hand it over and move on · 🍓 think about how many more of these there could be · 👑 look hardest at the part I did on instinct
      - **keep tightening what** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when I've done enough of them to know the shape; when it's nearly finished I keep tightening what I already know works — :
        id `2.3.2.0`
        - ⚖️ the shape is right; it's the finish that isn't. — subtype `endless_refinement` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I know exactly where these go wrong. — subtype `expertise_as_anxiety` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛡️ the more I've made, the less I'll let past. — subtype `escalating_standard` · outcome `negative`
        - 🚫 there's always another pass in it. — subtype `unbounded_refinement` · outcome `negative`
      - **hand it over** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when I've done enough of them to know the shape; when it's nearly finished I hand it over and move on — :
        id `2.3.2.1`
        - 🛠️ past a point I'm just handling it. — subtype `boredom_driven_release` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 I've made this before; I know it's fine. — subtype `complacent_closure` · outcome `negative`
        - 🐚 it doesn't need me any more. — subtype `premature_detachment` · outcome `negative`
        - 😴 the interesting part was earlier. — subtype `novelty_flight` · outcome `negative`
      - **think about how** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when I've done enough of them to know the shape; when it's nearly finished I think about how many more of these there could be — :
        id `2.3.2.2`
        - 🎹 the real value is in doing it again. — subtype `repetition_as_product` · outcome `negative`
        - 🛠️ one of these teaches you how to make ten. — subtype `scale_thinking` · outcome `negative`
        - 🏠 the method is worth more than any one of them. — subtype `abstraction_flight` · outcome `negative`
        - 🌬️ I could run this out a long way. — subtype `expansion` · outcome `negative`
      - **look hardest at** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when I've done enough of them to know the shape; when it's nearly finished I look hardest at the part I did on instinct — :
        id `2.3.2.3`
        - 🧠 the parts I did without thinking are the ones to check. — subtype `fluency_as_risk` · outcome `positive`
        - 👦 I've been wrong about this exact thing before. — subtype `fear_motivated_review` · outcome `negative`
        - ✅ experience is the only thing keeping it honest. — subtype `competence_reliance` · outcome `negative`
        - 🤍 on unfamiliar ground I wouldn't trust myself at all. — subtype `exposed_contingency` · outcome `negative`
    - **thing itself is** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when the thing itself is worth getting right; when it's nearly finished I :
      id `2.3.3` · phrases: 💼 keep working until it stops bothering me · 🧭 let it go before I ruin it · 🛠️ think about what it makes possible next · 🚫 sit with it long enough to see what it actually is
      - **keep working until** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when the thing itself is worth getting right; when it's nearly finished I keep working until it stops bothering me — :
        id `2.3.3.0`
        - ⚖️ it isn't right until it stops nagging. — subtype `affect_as_criterion` · outcome `negative`
        - 🎁 the thing deserves better than I've given it. — subtype `moralised_perfectionism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 close enough has never been a category for me. — subtype `absolutism` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧠 I'll know when it's there. — subtype `unfalsifiable_criterion` · outcome `negative`
      - **let it go** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when the thing itself is worth getting right; when it's nearly finished I let it go before I ruin it — :
        id `2.3.3.1`
        - 🕯️ you can work a thing to death. — subtype `rationalised_flight` · outcome `negative`
        - 🦉 past a point I'm only leaving fingerprints. — subtype `self_doubt` · outcome `negative`
        - 🦜 it's better than what I'd do to it next. — subtype `negative_self_appraisal` · outcome `negative`
        - 🍷 leaving it alone is a decision too. — subtype `passivity_as_judgement` · outcome `negative`
      - **think about what** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when the thing itself is worth getting right; when it's nearly finished I think about what it makes possible next — :
        id `2.3.3.2`
        - 🧭 a good thing should go somewhere. — subtype `instrumentalisation` · outcome `negative`
        - 💛 the point was never the single object. — subtype `devalued_particular` · outcome `negative`
        - ⭐ it's the start of something bigger. — subtype `deferred_value` · outcome `negative`
        - 🕊️ what it opens up is the real return. — subtype `return_thinking` · outcome `negative`
      - **sit with it** — What I make is made to last longer than my interest in it, and the work goes best when the thing itself is worth getting right; when it's nearly finished I sit with it long enough to see what it actually is — :
        id `2.3.3.3`
        - ⏳ the thing is allowed to be what it is. — subtype `completed_and_released` · outcome `wholesome`
        - 💼 whatever happens to it now isn't the work. — subtype `severed_from_consequence` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧼 it took what it took out of me. — subtype `self_sacrificial_accounting` · outcome `negative`
        - 🧭 I can leave it alone provided I don't look again. — subtype `conditional_release` · outcome `negative`
- **Compass** — I excel at :
  id `3` · phrases: 🦉 spotting what a situation actually rewards · 🍋 seeing the angle everyone else has missed · 💼 working inside a system that's already been thought through · ✍️ keeping my word once I've given it
  - **spotting what a** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when :
    id `3.0` · phrases: 🧠 I can think on my feet instead of following a process · 🌺 it's my read that people are relying on · 🏰 the incentives are set out clearly up front · 🚀 I've said in advance what I'll do
    - **can think on** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when I can think on my feet instead of following a process; I decide, and then :
      id `3.0.0` · phrases: 🌷 move on to the next thing · 🛠️ make sure people know it was my call · 📌 point to the mandate it was made under · 🧭 go back and check how it landed
      - **move on to** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when I can think on my feet instead of following a process; I decide, and then move on to the next thing — :
        id `3.0.0.0` · phrases: 🫁 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🤍 it's the most efficient route to a result. · 🏆 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure people** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when I can think on my feet instead of following a process; I decide, and then make sure people know it was my call — :
        id `3.0.0.1` · phrases: 🌲 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **point to the** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when I can think on my feet instead of following a process; I decide, and then point to the mandate it was made under — :
        id `3.0.0.2` · phrases: 🦜 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🤝 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · 🐇 if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **go back and** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when I can think on my feet instead of following a process; I decide, and then go back and check how it landed — :
        id `3.0.0.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · ✨ people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 🦴 I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
    - **read that people** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when it's my read that people are relying on; I decide, and then :
      id `3.0.1` · phrases: 🛠️ make sure the reasoning behind it is understood · 🧭 move on to the next thing · 🕯️ confirm it was mine to make · ❓ ask the people affected what I missed
      - **make sure the** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when it's my read that people are relying on; I decide, and then make sure the reasoning behind it is understood — :
        id `3.0.1.0` · phrases: 🌊 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **move on to** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when it's my read that people are relying on; I decide, and then move on to the next thing — :
        id `3.0.1.1` · phrases: 🌵 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🐚 it's the most efficient route to a result. · 🍇 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **confirm it was** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when it's my read that people are relying on; I decide, and then confirm it was mine to make — :
        id `3.0.1.2` · phrases: 💙 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🦔 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · ⚠️ if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **ask the people** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when it's my read that people are relying on; I decide, and then ask the people affected what I missed — :
        id `3.0.1.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · ⚔️ people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 💤 I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
    - **incentives are set** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when the incentives are set out clearly up front; I decide, and then :
      id `3.0.2` · phrases: 🎂 follow it through exactly as agreed · ⚖️ adjust it as the situation changes · 🛠️ make sure my part in it is on record · 👦 own the outcome whatever it turns out to be
      - **follow it through** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when the incentives are set out clearly up front; I decide, and then follow it through exactly as agreed — :
        id `3.0.2.0` · phrases: 🚂 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🌋 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · 🍪 if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **adjust it as** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when the incentives are set out clearly up front; I decide, and then adjust it as the situation changes — :
        id `3.0.2.1` · phrases: ☕ momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 📯 it's the most efficient route to a result. · 🍄 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure my** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when the incentives are set out clearly up front; I decide, and then make sure my part in it is on record — :
        id `3.0.2.2` · phrases: 🎨 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **own the outcome** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when the incentives are set out clearly up front; I decide, and then own the outcome whatever it turns out to be — :
        id `3.0.2.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 🌈 people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 🥇 I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
    - **said in advance** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when I've said in advance what I'll do; I decide, and then :
      id `3.0.3` · phrases: 🧭 own the outcome whichever way it goes · ✅ put it behind me and keep moving · 🛠️ make sure it's understood I was right to · 🎲 check it against what was authorised
      - **own the outcome** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when I've said in advance what I'll do; I decide, and then own the outcome whichever way it goes — :
        id `3.0.3.0` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · ✨ people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · ⌛ I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
      - **put it behind** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when I've said in advance what I'll do; I decide, and then put it behind me and keep moving — :
        id `3.0.3.1` · phrases: 🪵 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🫀 it's the most efficient route to a result. · 💜 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure it's** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when I've said in advance what I'll do; I decide, and then make sure it's understood I was right to — :
        id `3.0.3.2` · phrases: 💗 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **check it against** — I excel at spotting what a situation actually rewards, and I'm at my best when I've said in advance what I'll do; I decide, and then check it against what was authorised — :
        id `3.0.3.3` · phrases: 🍂 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🗺️ whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · 🔥 if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
  - **seeing the angle** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when :
    id `3.1` · phrases: 🍂 it's my judgment that's being relied on · 🏝️ I can move before anyone else has caught up · 👨 my role in it is clearly defined · 💼 I can show my working to the people affected
    - **judgment that's being** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when it's my judgment that's being relied on; I decide, and then :
      id `3.1.0` · phrases: 🛠️ make sure the reasoning behind it is understood · 🎖️ move on to the next thing · ⌛ confirm it was mine to make · ❓ ask the people affected what I missed
      - **make sure the** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when it's my judgment that's being relied on; I decide, and then make sure the reasoning behind it is understood — :
        id `3.1.0.0` · phrases: 📿 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **move on to** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when it's my judgment that's being relied on; I decide, and then move on to the next thing — :
        id `3.1.0.1` · phrases: 🏜️ momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🦉 it's the most efficient route to a result. · 💛 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **confirm it was** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when it's my judgment that's being relied on; I decide, and then confirm it was mine to make — :
        id `3.1.0.2` · phrases: 🐢 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🪡 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · 🩹 if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **ask the people** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when it's my judgment that's being relied on; I decide, and then ask the people affected what I missed — :
        id `3.1.0.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 🖤 people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · ⌛ I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
    - **can move before** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when I can move before anyone else has caught up; I decide, and then :
      id `3.1.1` · phrases: 🌴 move on to the next thing · 🛠️ make sure people know it was my call · 📅 point to the mandate it was made under · 🧭 go back and check how it landed
      - **move on to** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when I can move before anyone else has caught up; I decide, and then move on to the next thing — :
        id `3.1.1.0` · phrases: 🍉 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🍺 it's the most efficient route to a result. · ⌛ there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure people** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when I can move before anyone else has caught up; I decide, and then make sure people know it was my call — :
        id `3.1.1.1` · phrases: 🍞 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **point to the** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when I can move before anyone else has caught up; I decide, and then point to the mandate it was made under — :
        id `3.1.1.2` · phrases: 🦋 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🩹 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · 💨 if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **go back and** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when I can move before anyone else has caught up; I decide, and then go back and check how it landed — :
        id `3.1.1.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 🧹 people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 🍂 I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
    - **role in it** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when my role in it is clearly defined; I decide, and then :
      id `3.1.2` · phrases: 🌈 follow it through exactly as agreed · ⚖️ adjust it as the situation changes · 🛠️ make sure my part in it is on record · ⚠️ own the outcome whatever it turns out to be
      - **follow it through** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when my role in it is clearly defined; I decide, and then follow it through exactly as agreed — :
        id `3.1.2.0` · phrases: ✅ that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🧼 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · ☕ if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **adjust it as** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when my role in it is clearly defined; I decide, and then adjust it as the situation changes — :
        id `3.1.2.1` · phrases: 🎨 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🌱 it's the most efficient route to a result. · 🏛️ there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure my** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when my role in it is clearly defined; I decide, and then make sure my part in it is on record — :
        id `3.1.2.2` · phrases: 🩹 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **own the outcome** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when my role in it is clearly defined; I decide, and then own the outcome whatever it turns out to be — :
        id `3.1.2.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 🌀 people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 🗝️ I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
    - **can show my** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when I can show my working to the people affected; I decide, and then :
      id `3.1.3` · phrases: 🧭 own the outcome whichever way it goes · ✅ put it behind me and keep moving · 🛠️ make sure it's understood I was right to · 🍓 check it against what was authorised
      - **own the outcome** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when I can show my working to the people affected; I decide, and then own the outcome whichever way it goes — :
        id `3.1.3.0` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 🎨 people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 🛠️ I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
      - **put it behind** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when I can show my working to the people affected; I decide, and then put it behind me and keep moving — :
        id `3.1.3.1` · phrases: 🦌 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🏡 it's the most efficient route to a result. · 🐦 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure it's** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when I can show my working to the people affected; I decide, and then make sure it's understood I was right to — :
        id `3.1.3.2` · phrases: 🍯 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **check it against** — I excel at seeing the angle everyone else has missed, and I'm at my best when I can show my working to the people affected; I decide, and then check it against what was authorised — :
        id `3.1.3.3` · phrases: 💋 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 👦 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · ⚖️ if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
  - **working inside a** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when :
    id `3.2` · phrases: 💌 the expectations have been spelled out for me · 🦢 I can find the shortest route to the outcome · 🍇 my contribution is visible · ❓ I understand why the system is set up the way it is
    - **expectations have been** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when the expectations have been spelled out for me; I decide, and then :
      id `3.2.0` · phrases: 🎩 follow it through exactly as agreed · ⚖️ adjust it as the situation changes · 🛠️ make sure my part in it is on record · 🌼 own the outcome whatever it turns out to be
      - **follow it through** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when the expectations have been spelled out for me; I decide, and then follow it through exactly as agreed — :
        id `3.2.0.0` · phrases: 🦷 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · ⚡ whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · 🧠 if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **adjust it as** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when the expectations have been spelled out for me; I decide, and then adjust it as the situation changes — :
        id `3.2.0.1` · phrases: 👧 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · ⏰ it's the most efficient route to a result. · 🐝 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure my** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when the expectations have been spelled out for me; I decide, and then make sure my part in it is on record — :
        id `3.2.0.2` · phrases: 👨 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **own the outcome** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when the expectations have been spelled out for me; I decide, and then own the outcome whatever it turns out to be — :
        id `3.2.0.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · ⏳ people should be able to predict what I'll do. · 🏛️ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 🥝 I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
    - **can find the** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when I can find the shortest route to the outcome; I decide, and then :
      id `3.2.1` · phrases: 🌬️ move on to the next thing · 🛠️ make sure people know it was my call · 🌳 point to the mandate it was made under · 🧭 go back and check how it landed
      - **move on to** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when I can find the shortest route to the outcome; I decide, and then move on to the next thing — :
        id `3.2.1.0` · phrases: 🍺 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🚂 it's the most efficient route to a result. · 📅 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure people** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when I can find the shortest route to the outcome; I decide, and then make sure people know it was my call — :
        id `3.2.1.1` · phrases: 🕶️ the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **point to the** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when I can find the shortest route to the outcome; I decide, and then point to the mandate it was made under — :
        id `3.2.1.2` · phrases: 🐦 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🥕 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · 📝 if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **go back and** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when I can find the shortest route to the outcome; I decide, and then go back and check how it landed — :
        id `3.2.1.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 👁️ people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 💥 I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
    - **contribution is visible** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when my contribution is visible; I decide, and then :
      id `3.2.2` · phrases: 🛠️ make sure the reasoning behind it is understood · 🌋 move on to the next thing · 🌻 confirm it was mine to make · ❓ ask the people affected what I missed
      - **make sure the** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when my contribution is visible; I decide, and then make sure the reasoning behind it is understood — :
        id `3.2.2.0` · phrases: 🎤 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **move on to** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when my contribution is visible; I decide, and then move on to the next thing — :
        id `3.2.2.1` · phrases: 🫀 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🦊 it's the most efficient route to a result. · ✈️ there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **confirm it was** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when my contribution is visible; I decide, and then confirm it was mine to make — :
        id `3.2.2.2` · phrases: 😌 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🎾 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · 🚫 if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **ask the people** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when my contribution is visible; I decide, and then ask the people affected what I missed — :
        id `3.2.2.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 🍁 people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 👒 I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
    - **understand why the** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when I understand why the system is set up the way it is; I decide, and then :
      id `3.2.3` · phrases: 🧭 own the outcome whichever way it goes · ✅ put it behind me and keep moving · 🛠️ make sure it's understood I was right to · 🍷 check it against what was authorised
      - **own the outcome** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when I understand why the system is set up the way it is; I decide, and then own the outcome whichever way it goes — :
        id `3.2.3.0` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 🍀 people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · ❗ I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
      - **put it behind** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when I understand why the system is set up the way it is; I decide, and then put it behind me and keep moving — :
        id `3.2.3.1` · phrases: 🦋 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 📝 it's the most efficient route to a result. · 🎬 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure it's** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when I understand why the system is set up the way it is; I decide, and then make sure it's understood I was right to — :
        id `3.2.3.2` · phrases: 🌀 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **check it against** — I excel at working inside a system that's already been thought through, and I'm at my best when I understand why the system is set up the way it is; I decide, and then check it against what was authorised — :
        id `3.2.3.3` · phrases: 🐺 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · ✍️ whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · 🍪 if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
  - **keeping my word** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when :
    id `3.3` · phrases: 📅 I understand what the commitment actually costs · 🧭 the situation lets me adapt as I go · 🗺️ my read on it is the one that counts · 📜 someone senior has signed off on the approach
    - **understand what the** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when I understand what the commitment actually costs; I decide, and then :
      id `3.3.0` · phrases: 🧭 own the outcome whichever way it goes · ✅ put it behind me and keep moving · 🛠️ make sure it's understood I was right to · 🌸 check it against what was authorised
      - **own the outcome** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when I understand what the commitment actually costs; I decide, and then own the outcome whichever way it goes — :
        id `3.3.0.0` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 🎲 people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 🏡 I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
      - **put it behind** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when I understand what the commitment actually costs; I decide, and then put it behind me and keep moving — :
        id `3.3.0.1` · phrases: 🏔️ momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🌧️ it's the most efficient route to a result. · 📝 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure it's** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when I understand what the commitment actually costs; I decide, and then make sure it's understood I was right to — :
        id `3.3.0.2` · phrases: 🚀 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **check it against** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when I understand what the commitment actually costs; I decide, and then check it against what was authorised — :
        id `3.3.0.3` · phrases: 🌼 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🦔 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · 🐦 if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
    - **situation lets me** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when the situation lets me adapt as I go; I decide, and then :
      id `3.3.1` · phrases: ⛵ move on to the next thing · 🛠️ make sure people know it was my call · 🎯 point to the mandate it was made under · 🧭 go back and check how it landed
      - **move on to** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when the situation lets me adapt as I go; I decide, and then move on to the next thing — :
        id `3.3.1.0` · phrases: 💨 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🍉 it's the most efficient route to a result. · 🍋 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure people** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when the situation lets me adapt as I go; I decide, and then make sure people know it was my call — :
        id `3.3.1.1` · phrases: 👨 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **point to the** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when the situation lets me adapt as I go; I decide, and then point to the mandate it was made under — :
        id `3.3.1.2` · phrases: 🏅 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🍑 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · 🐬 if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **go back and** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when the situation lets me adapt as I go; I decide, and then go back and check how it landed — :
        id `3.3.1.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 🐇 people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 🐺 I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
    - **read on it** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when my read on it is the one that counts; I decide, and then :
      id `3.3.2` · phrases: 🛠️ make sure the reasoning behind it is understood · 🍯 move on to the next thing · 🎩 confirm it was mine to make · ❓ ask the people affected what I missed
      - **make sure the** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when my read on it is the one that counts; I decide, and then make sure the reasoning behind it is understood — :
        id `3.3.2.0` · phrases: 🦔 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **move on to** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when my read on it is the one that counts; I decide, and then move on to the next thing — :
        id `3.3.2.1` · phrases: 📍 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · ⚔️ it's the most efficient route to a result. · 🎾 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **confirm it was** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when my read on it is the one that counts; I decide, and then confirm it was mine to make — :
        id `3.3.2.2` · phrases: 🦜 that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🌊 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · ⚖️ if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **ask the people** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when my read on it is the one that counts; I decide, and then ask the people affected what I missed — :
        id `3.3.2.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 🌙 people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · ❄️ I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.
    - **someone senior has** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when someone senior has signed off on the approach; I decide, and then :
      id `3.3.3` · phrases: 🥁 follow it through exactly as agreed · ⚖️ adjust it as the situation changes · 🛠️ make sure my part in it is on record · 📅 own the outcome whatever it turns out to be
      - **follow it through** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when someone senior has signed off on the approach; I decide, and then follow it through exactly as agreed — :
        id `3.3.3.0` · phrases: ⌛ that's what was agreed, and agreements hold. · 🕊️ it isn't my place to reopen it. · 🪵 whoever set it up had reasons I don't need. · ⛺ if it's wrong, that's a problem further up.
      - **adjust it as** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when someone senior has signed off on the approach; I decide, and then adjust it as the situation changes — :
        id `3.3.3.1` · phrases: 💧 momentum is worth more than second-guessing. · 🌲 it's the most efficient route to a result. · 🤍 there's always something new in front of me. · 🚫 none of it weighs on me afterwards.
      - **make sure my** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when someone senior has signed off on the approach; I decide, and then make sure my part in it is on record — :
        id `3.3.3.2` · phrases: 💜 the record should show whose call it was. · 😴 being underestimated is what actually costs. · 💼 most people are working from a weaker read. · ❓ once people see the reasoning they stop questioning it.
      - **own the outcome** — I excel at keeping my word once I've given it, and I'm at my best when someone senior has signed off on the approach; I decide, and then own the outcome whatever it turns out to be — :
        id `3.3.3.3` · phrases: ⚖️ getting it right matters more than being seen to. · 🌶️ people should be able to predict what I'll do. · ⏳ I'd rather be corrected early than late. · 🎯 I'd hold to it even if it cost me everything I have.

## Emoji assignment (deterministic)

For a node’s four phrases, in order:
1. Use a fixed meaning table if the word is listed and that emoji is still free in this node.
2. Else a keyword regex (fire→🔥, water→🌊, home→🏠, …) if still free.
3. Else FNV-1a of `` `${id}:${word}` `` into a 180-emoji alphabet, skipping any already used in this node.

The table in this file is the source of truth for decoding — prefer the emojis printed on each node over recomputing.

## Product rules

- Four original pastel squares. A choice tints that region (saturation/value, same hue).
- Only the chosen square of a 2×2 can be opened next. The other three stay visible with L-corner marks — never X marks.
- Four phrases complete a statement. The last phrase still splits into a 2×2 of smallest squares.
- The chosen final square is highlighted; its corner stays an L, not a filled square.
- Download PNG is watermarked `whoami.grok.me` under the map, sized to the smallest tile.